Post Date December, 03 2023
The matter between us is too complicated. I don't know where to start. Now his affair is in my mind. I can't let it go. I'm tortured by it every day. He has been living with that woman outside for half a year. He doesn't go home and doesn't admit he has a lover. I have been communicating with him to hope that he will be honest with me. If he wants to divorce, I don't care. I just don't want him to torture me every day. But he just doesn't admit it and doesn't go home, and ignores me and the children. Slowly, I became particularly hateful of him. To be frank, I thought he was deliberately trying to torture me.
Later, the cold war began. A month later, he came back and said that he would not go on business anymore, and admitted that he had a lover. But he also lied to me about many things, such as concealing the name of his lover because he was tattooed with the name of the woman. Later, I found him, and he collapsed! I suspected that the tattoo was done by a woman, but he never admitted it. He lied to me!
Can you understand this feeling? I have been tortured by cheating all the time. If you can cheat me for a lifetime, you will still be crushed if I finally know the truth. Why not just let me collapse, but torture me for so long! There are so many things like this. I'm afraid!
He said they were broken, but a few days later I found that he sent the woman a 5.21 red envelope, and I collapsed again. He said he wanted to cheat the woman to spend money, so he hung her. I have a strong personality, so I hold it back with him. I said yes, you want it, and he agreed. Then he changed his mind. Later, I spoke directly with this woman. I asked my husband to say what he wanted, and I had no opinion about divorce. But my dirty husband didn't have enough confidence to say anything to me and that woman at last. I felt ashamed, I thought he would help me recover my lost dignity in front of that woman, but he let me down!
Now I have no way to go, I think marriage can't continue! He didn't do anything for me, just fooled me! I hate him very much. Sometimes I really hope that when he dies, all problems will disappear, and there is no need to dwell on the issue of divorce or not, as well as the issue of property! Now I don't know how to put it down. I can't do anything. Every day I feel painful and particularly annoying.
reply:
Generally, a man who is cheating rarely chooses to divorce his wife, because he knows the high cost of divorce and that his cheating partner is only suitable for play, not for marriage. For this reason, the purpose of a man's cheating is nothing more than to satisfy the lack of freshness and excitement in marriage and satisfy the temporary greed. Therefore, after cheating, a man is extremely tough in front of his wife. If he can hide it, he will not admit it, unless his wife catches him on the spot.
Men are such ambitious animals. Sometimes I feel shameless in front of greed. In fact, since you already know that your husband is unfaithful to you, why should you pretend to be confused? Knowing that he has done something wrong to you, if he basically doesn't give up after you expose his scandal, then you should calmly consider your bottom line. Is it important to maintain the current marital interests, or is it important to let yourself kick the scum and get hurt in time?
Many times, there is no need to ask the result that you already know. It is not important. The important thing is to find out the problems in marriage, see the other side's face clearly, make the right choice, and make the marriage less hurt.
To tell the truth, your man is a very shameless and hypocritical counsellor, and you can't be decisive enough. Why do you let yourself so tangled with resentment and collapse now? It all comes from your concern about him, love and the gain and loss of realistic interests. You can't stand his cheating on you, and even more can't stand his tattooing the name of his lover on his body. He clearly is his man, but he is taken away by another woman. You can't face this frustration. You see your unbearable in the cheating of your husband. You can't accept this man, you can't accept yourself. Do a good job of accounting. What can you do to make yourself more cost-effective? There are no entanglements that can't go out, only entanglements that don't want to go out. Stay away from the pain of marriage, or rely on your own inner strength.
