Post Date April, 15 2023
If a man does not want sex at any given moment, and her wife or lover generally does not insist on coercion, even if persistent coercion, it is often futile, because stubborn men tend to be lazy or poor in dealing with this aspect, both physically and mentally.
On the contrary, what happens if a man is motivated by his sexuality at some point and is determined to make progress? According to my humble observations, the results may be as follows:
1、 The woman was forced to take up the battle, scraped through for a while, and finally made haste.
2、 "Due to her reluctance and reluctance to love, the woman either feels empty and meandering, pushing and blocking in every way;"; Either sink your face and refuse severely.
Let's leave the first situation alone (the situation is not serious). What needs to be taken seriously is the second situation.
Let's take a look at an example:
It was noon one day not long ago. For a small matter, I went to find a friend. As soon as I arrived at his door, I heard a fierce quarrel.
Man: Are you a woman who wouldn't even meet such a small request?
Woman: What's the matter with you? They don't want it now!
Man: Did you say you don't want it or not? What are we now?
Woman: Are you mistaken? It's noon now—— I'm not used to it.
... Seeing them arguing like this, I was just about to turn around and leave. Unexpectedly, with a dull sound, there suddenly came a sound of crying inside. Needless to say, this is a fight. So I quickly ran away.
In the face of such a big or small matter, what should we outsiders say? Say that man is crude and shapeless? Say that woman doesn't understand amorous feelings?
The answer is probably not that simple. In my opinion, in this case, the crux of the problem should be that neither man nor woman really understands the basic relationship between sex and love.
Their mistake was to isolate sex from love.
The man believes that at this moment, I need - very much - a one-time sprint, so as my woman, you are firmly obligated to comply with my wishes. The woman is thinking that sex is not as simple as drinking a glass of water, how can it be said to come? Besides, it's the rush of noon, and I'm not in the mood to play this trick with you. If I really want to play, will I die at night?
I believe that on our planet, psychological activities such as these are occurring in large numbers every day and every hour, and the resulting gender conflicts and even wars are constantly intensifying. Both men and women believe that the truth is in their grasp, and neither is willing to surrender to each other and make any basic and necessary accommodations or concessions.
Men are wrong, women are also wrong.
I don't remember a modern European philosopher who said this sentence: "Marriage, in essence, is one of the cheapest and most convenient prostitution systems, which hides the characteristic of pursuing pleasure and pursuing pleasure deeply under the gentle family veil." So, of course, there is a suspicion of belittling female sexuality and marriage, but from the most primitive sense, isn't the essence of marriage exactly like this? "Human beings are flesh and blood, and naturally have seven emotions and six desires. Naturally, it is necessary to find a convenient and feasible channel to vent their emotions. In order to avoid unnecessary disputes with others, the marriage system has also emerged in accordance with the trend.".
With this understanding, conflicts between couples like the one mentioned above can be resolved psychologically: since they are two people who are in love, and since one party has this need, they have a complete obligation and responsibility to cater to and satisfy them. Even if there are some physical and mental obstacles, it is also possible to speak favorably to each other, and there is no need to be anxious and aggressive.
To sum up, in matters such as sex, what men need is to gradually become gentle, while women should learn to be tolerant and considerate as soon as possible. Many times, when men want something, it is not selfish or vulgar as you think. On the contrary, it mainly means that they love you and look forward to your love!
