I have been married to my husband for ten years. When I fell in love, I told him that I had a boyfriend and lost. He accepted me after a painful struggle. After marriage, he doesn't go shopping with me or meet friends.
He often went out alone at night, and later found that he had a condom with him. In the past 10 years, I have never felt safe. He is a good man. He never beats or scolds, does not smoke and occasionally drinks, and does not seek trouble after drinking. My feelings are very fragile. I must put on my armor and make myself strong. After marriage, I argued many times, and I asked for divorce many times. He didn't agree, and he always reconciled overnight. He is good to me and my children, and also to my parents.
But this time he proposed a divorce with a firm attitude. I asked the reason, and he said that he didn't want to live like this, because I lost my life before marriage and humiliated him. My child is 9 years old, and I don't want to divorce because I love him and get used to him. I can't live without him. I asked if there was a third party, and he denied it.
The person who frequently mentions divorce after quarrel between husband and wife often hopes that his wife can treat him better, but never mentions divorce. However, the person who suddenly says divorce is often ready for divorce.
Judging from the various performances of your husband after marriage, he has always felt that you are not willing to be a virgin, but the marriage has lasted for ten years, and his virgin complex should subside. So, there are only two possibilities for his strange performance now. One possibility is that he often seeks to vent his desire to unmarried women to complete his imbalance, and now he finally sleeps a virgin, and is responsible for that woman in the end. The other possibility is that, He is a homosexual at all, relying on you not being a virgin as a fig leaf these years, and doing things that he likes men.
No matter what the situation is, as a wife, you must have the right to know before you agree to divorce. For this reason, from now on, be a careful woman, and you can also track her husband after he goes out, understand the truth of his sudden divorce, and then make the most rational judgment on whether to divorce. If your husband develops heterosexuality, you will fight with the mistress. If your husband loves the same sex, please ask him to leave the house clean.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)