Post Date April, 15 2023
When it comes to extramarital affairs, many people think of sexual infidelity because it is a common phenomenon in sexual life. Some people have physical infidelity for the sake of money and status; Some people limit their emotional needs beyond marriage to spiritual experiences, leading to mental infidelity; Whether it's mental or physical infidelity, this phenomenon has become common. Is mental infidelity greater than physical infidelity? Let's study it now.
There is no sexual relationship, the essence is the same
Zhu Rongshen, a professor of marriage psychology, pointed out that a person who is in agony for their relationship and sleepless all night is called "passionate love" for unmarried people and "infidelity" for married people. Both mental and physical infidelity are aimed at marriage and a state of longing for non marital sexual relationships, so the two are essentially the same.
Professor Zhu analyzed that marriage has its own rules. The specificity of "one-on-one" in form is the minimum requirement, and the higher level is the "unity of body and mind". Many people see the beautiful and free spirited extramarital love in movies and TV dramas, thinking that they can also "play" gracefully. In fact, there is a considerable distance between life and art, and more of us can only be happy by wholeheartedly loving our partners.
What exists is reasonable
What exists is reasonable. "Dr. Du Yasong of the Psychological Counseling Center believes that it has its own constructive significance in addressing the issue of mental extramarital affairs.
Dr. Du introduced that humans are advanced animals with complex and ever-changing interests. It is difficult to only be interested in one thing for a lifetime, and it is also difficult to love only one person for a lifetime. Developing feelings for someone other than a partner is a normal manifestation of a person's rich emotions and complex and ever-changing interests.
In real life, many people will encounter this situation: although their marriage relationship is very happy, due to work or life reasons, they will have close contact with a certain opposite sex. If two people have similar conditions, it is inevitable that they have a good impression of each other. The mutual comfort in words and care in life have met their emotional needs for a considerable period of time throughout the day. For various reasons, emotional communication may have developed under moral constraints, but many of them may never have thought about developing physical relationships.
Others are the embodiment of the "Romeo and Juliet Effect" in psychology: according to the research of psychologist Driscoll in 1972, the more external interference they receive, the deeper their feelings will be. Dr. Du said that some people are not happy in their own lives, so they desire a happy sexual relationship. However, due to constraints such as morality and identity, their emotional needs are severely constrained, making the pursuit of spiritual comfort particularly strong.
Nowadays, the development of the internet provides the most convenient way for spiritual extramarital affairs. While public opinion generally questions online dating, there are also many people who argue for emotional communication in this virtual space. Some even say that without moderate mental infidelity online to release emotions, one's marriage might have ended long ago.
Mental infidelity also endangers the family
Psychologist Liu Xuejun introduced that she often encounters counselors with mental extramarital issues. Many people are both reluctant to part with their confidants of the opposite sex and unwilling to betray their families, so a comforting phrase always lingers in their minds: "We are just mentally unfaithful, better than physically unfaithful
Dr. Liu said that at this point, she would tell the counselor, "What you need to face now is not the question of which kind of infidelity is better, but why do you fall into the trend of infidelity? Marriage is a fait accompli in sexual relationships, why do you still feel pain in love
Through careful examination of their marital status, the counselor suggests that if they still want to salvage their marriage, Dr. Liu will gradually reduce the chances of meeting their "confidants", preserve a sense of distance in time and space, and let the relationship gradually fade. You can even try to magnify the flaws in the other person and treat this relationship rationally.
Dr. Liu also pointed out that people who have mental infidelities will inevitably overlook their attention to their own family, so when they want to step back, it is the best time to repair their marital relationship. Two people may want to reminisce more about their love and joy when they first got married together, and engage in more solitary activities to make their marriage life take over.
Through careful examination of their marital status, the counselor suggests that if they still want to salvage their marriage, Dr. Liu will gradually reduce the chances of meeting their "confidants", preserve a sense of distance in time and space, and let the relationship gradually fade. You can even try to magnify the flaws in the other person and treat this relationship rationally.
In summary, whether it's mental or physical infidelity, it not only creates a negative image for oneself, but also affects the lives of those around us. We should cherish our emotions well.
