Post Date December, 03 2023
Her husband had a woman in society, and Ye Pei cried to death several times. However, gradually she began to reflect. Her husband had an affair, and she also had a responsibility in it! Over the years, she has worked hard to maintain her family and has high expectations of herself; For the husband, it is warm and considerate.
Is it the responsibility of a wife for a man to have an affair
1. Growing up in a failed marriage and family, longing for true love
Ye Pei grew up amidst the noise of her parents' arguments. She had a wish since childhood: to find a man who truly loves and cares for her in the future.
At the age of 18, Ye Pei met the considerate and gentle Zhang Fan, which made Ye Pei extremely relieved. She believed that he was the "standard of love" she wanted. Engaged at the age of 20, married at the age of 23, and the love between Ye Pei and Zhang Fan proceeded according to the established procedures.
After marriage, Ye Pei set a "rule of love" for herself: if you love him, you must consider everything for him. Zhang Fan has a busy company. She understood him, no matter how late he came back, she would make a night snack and wait for his door; He returned from a business trip for several days, and she is his closest lover and "close nanny". Zhang Fan's friends all envy him for having such a reasonable and good wife. Ye Pei is very proud.
But the happy days won't last long.
Ye Pei found that Zhang Fan often has an unfamiliar number in his phone. She is not a serious woman, and she is so diligent because her husband's friend accidentally told her that Zhang Fan had drunk too much once and had feelings with another woman. It was only then that Ye Pei realized that from October when she was pregnant to six months after giving birth, Zhang Fan had hardly made any intimate gestures towards her.
Eight years ago, on July 20th, Ye Pei's 24th birthday, Zhang Fan said that the company was busy and wouldn't go home at night. After he left, Ye Pei put down his suckling son and, like many lost wives, began to follow. In a rented house in a community, Ye Pei saw Zhang Fan giving her a "birthday gift": the dirty scene between him and his lover!
In a daze, Ye Pei returned home, broke a rice bowl, picked up the fragments and fiercely cut them off at his left wrist vein
2. Is it the wife's fault that a man has an affair?
When Ye Pei was rescued, Zhang Fan knelt in front of him. He confessed that the woman had been in love with him since she came from Jiangsu many years ago. Later on, she broke up and married someone. He married Ye Pei, and now she's divorced. He swore not to associate with that woman again.
However, the knife wound on Ye Pei's left wrist had not yet formed a scar, so he and Zhang Fan's sister experienced the performance scene of Zhang Fan holding the woman on the South Station overpass! Zhang Fan wept and begged Ye Pei to forgive him, all because they were once the first lovers, it is inevitable that the true love is there. Ye Pei walked up to Zhang Fan, calmly took the cigarette butt in his hand, and then pressed it firmly into his right wrist
Ye Pei said to Zhang Fan, "If you don't love me anymore, I agree to divorce." Zhang Fan cried bitterly, "I love you.
Zhang Fan's words calmed Ye Pei down from extreme sadness and began to reflect on himself, Zhang Fan, and the woman.
It is said that many women do not blame their husbands for such shameful and shameful affairs as extramarital affairs, but only reflect on themselves, "Am I lacking charm, am I not doing enough?
Ye Pei is such a person. She began to strive to transform herself and run a family through self blame.
For many years, Ye Pei has taken on the entire responsibility of household chores and raising children, while Zhang Fan lives a comfortable life where clothes come to hand and food comes to mouth. Ye Pei is as busy as a single mother, psychologically isolated. But she felt there was a future ahead, and she believed that her efforts would ultimately move her husband.
Ye Pei also believes that to bring her husband back to her side, she not only needs to be a good wife, daughter-in-law, and mother, but also has her own career. So, while willingly enduring his lack of love and giving everything for her family without complaint or regret, she set out to change the living situation of "male dominated outside, female dominated inside" and embarked on a difficult entrepreneurial journey.
3. To endure grievances and not bring back the once perfect marriage
Time has quietly passed for 8 years, and Ye Pei has already transformed from a carefree little daughter-in-law into a successful woman with knowledge and career. Her career influence and company assets have already surpassed those of Zhang Fan. But she still strives to create the joyful atmosphere of the "newlywed family" between herself and her husband. She even entrusted all her children to kindergarten, so that Zhang Fan could deeply feel the warmth of home and appreciate her good intentions as a wife. On weekends and holidays, she always comes up with many projects that can make her husband and children happy.
Ye Pei threaded through the border city of marriage, tightly stitching every gap. She only wants to repair this once perfect marriage, and she doesn't care how much heartbreak and forbearance she has put in.
However, some men just don't accept this sentiment.
Zhang Fan has been carefully cared for by Ye Pei for the past 8 years. At home, he doesn't know how to turn on the gas stove, and his business has plummeted overseas. However, he has only one skill that remains the same: cleverly avoiding the eyes and ears of his wife and family, and continuing his extramarital love
Last month, Ye Pei drove his BMW through a small alley and once again witnessed the "unfinished love" between Zhang Fan and his "first love woman".
Ye Pei is no longer interested in exploring the difficult question of whether a man's affair is the fault of his wife. Two days ago, Ye Pei finally extended her hands to Wuzheng. Ye Pei has a long scar left by cutting his wrist on his left wrist; There is a deep black hole on the right wrist that has been burned by a cigarette butt.
On a day in August, which will be Zhang Fan's birthday, Ye Pei said that she will repay him with a birthday gift: a divorce letter!
