Post Date December, 03 2023
Both of us are college students. We met a year and a half ago. We established a relationship on New Year's Day this year. Now her father, after knowing our relationship, held a negative attitude and told her to break up with me immediately. She listened to her father, but she still couldn't give up on me, so did I. Is there any need for me to try to recover? How can I grasp it?
Doctor of Psychology:
If you have feelings with each other, and both of you have the desire to develop, of course, you have the need to work hard to recover. China's marriage law stipulates that marriage is free, and no one can force or interfere, including parents. But I don't know why her father objected?
If it is because her family is worried that you are all in college, which will affect each other's study, you can promise her father that your love is based on the premise of ensuring the completion of the study task, which will not affect the study, and that together can help to study, and encourage each other.
If her father firmly objects to you because of your poor family conditions, it means that he has no emotional objection to you, but only raises an objection in the economic aspect for the future happiness of his daughter. You can tell him that your family situation is not good today, which does not mean that you will be bad all your life. "Be able to bully an old man and not a young man." You will study hard and use your wisdom and ability to improve your material life in the future.
If it is because you are not in the same city with each other, and you are afraid that you will face separation or take away your daughter in the future, you should understand the old man. Tell him that the good man is ambitious. You can settle down here without going back to your hometown to develop your own business.
I hope that through your own efforts, you can communicate with her father well, reason with reason, and be emotional, so as to get his understanding and support. Don't just bury your expectation of happiness in your heart, don't wander, and bravely pursue your own happiness. Use your wisdom to grasp the future and change your destiny.
Marriage without love is difficult to have a good ending, and tragedies of bedfellows are also common. Parents want their children to find a good home. By the way, I also remind parents that the wisest way to make their children happy is to respect their own choices, otherwise the tragedy of Romeo and Juliet will be repeated
