Edward Lawman, a sociology professor at the University of Chicago in the United States, conducted a large-scale survey and published a report titled "The Social Organization of Sex - Sexual Practice in America", pointing out that there are universal differences between men and women in the following seven aspects. If summarized in one sentence, it is: "Women's libido is like water, unpredictable; men's libido is like fire, unrestrained but fleeting
Professor Lawman found that among men under the age of 60, the majority of them think about sex at least once a day on average, and their spontaneous arousal is much higher than that of women. Among women, only 25% have this frequency. With the increase of age, the sexual fantasy of both men and women will decrease, but in general, the frequency of male sexual fantasy is still twice that of female.
Men are more 'obsessed' with sexual activity. Research has found that men engage in sexual activity more frequently than women. Most men hope to have more than one sexual partner in their lifetime, and they are more interested in casual sex. 67% of men admit to masturbating regularly, while only 40% of women masturbate, and their frequency is much lower than that of men.
Women's sexual orientation is more variable. Researchers from Northwestern University in the United States broadcast pornographic videos to a group of volunteers and asked them about the degree of sexual arousal. At the same time, real sexual arousal is measured through instruments connected to their genitalia. It was found that men's sexual orientation was clear, but women's results were intriguing. Although heterosexuality women said they were more excited about sex between men and women, the measurement results showed that they had the same sexual arousal response to all sexual activities. This study suggests that women are more "mobile" and will also accept same-sex love.
Women's sexual behavior and mate selection are more influenced by society and culture. The original motivation for men to have sex is to inherit their genes and have their own offspring. Women are very cautious in choosing partners, because they have to undertake the task of pregnancy and child care, so they pay more attention to the quality of feelings and living conditions, hoping to find a man who can help her around.
Female sexual satisfaction requires more foreshadowing, as New York psychotherapist Est Parier once said, women's sexual desire is between their ears rather than between their legs. That is to say, romantic sweet words can make them more excited. In the process of sexual intercourse, women need romantic plots, and psychological expectations can better ignite their desires, while men do not need this kind of bedding. For them, the simpler sexual intercourse, the better the direct effect. But this does not mean that men do not need intimacy, because in their eyes, sex itself is the "language" that expresses tenderness and honey, and is the highest level of spiritual and physical integration.