Post Date December, 03 2023
Priority for Lovers
From the sweet stage of love to the process of "power struggle" in marriage, every couple instinctively feels disappointed and awakened. In order to avoid it, some people turn their attention to work and friends, making their partner feel frustrated and lonely. But maintaining a healthy marital relationship requires you to prioritize each other over work and friends.
Requirement: Negotiate overtime or meeting friends with loved ones; Prioritize loved ones over oneself; Don't let one person talk endlessly while the other only listens.
Only by loving oneself can one love others
People generally believe that the primary task in maintaining a healthy marital relationship is to love each other. But the author of the book suggests that in order to love each other better, we must first love ourselves.
Requirement: Accept and correctly evaluate one's desires, emotions, and intuition.
No husband and wife are equal
No couple is equal, and there are differences in age, intelligence, and social status between couples.
Requirement: Do not stick to the idea of 'men lead outside, women lead inside'; Remember that 'excessive expectations' are the seeds of' resentment '; Share work experiences with the other party.
To hear the 'voiceover'
Good communication between couples is not about listening to every word the other person says. The most important thing is to hear the hidden emotions behind the words.
Requirement: When a loved one is speaking, they should not be absent-minded, and should not rush into interrupting or evaluating. They should understand the emotional tone of the other person before giving appropriate responses.
Learn to rely on others
Women who are too financially independent are very detrimental to their marital relationships, and it is only through shared experiences that the relationship between husband and wife becomes stronger over time.
Requirement: Learn interdependence with loved ones and create opportunities to 'hand over' oneself to them.
