Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband Xiaogang has been extremely hot tempered recently, and often a small matter can make his powder barrel explode. Just like this morning, Xiaoqing couldn't pick up her son from kindergarten on time due to a gathering of college classmates in the afternoon, and once again ignited Xiaogang's powder keg. The couple argued about this all morning because Xiao Gang believed that Xiao Qing should prioritize her son, and Xiao Qing also believed that when necessary, Xiao Gang should share some of it with her.
After breakfast, on the way to send her son to kindergarten, her son naively asked Xiaoqing, "Why does Dad always get angry with you?" Xiaoqing smiled and said to her son, "Because Mom is the closest person to Dad!" This comforting words also comforted Xiaoqing herself.
People encounter setbacks or conflicts with colleagues in their work. Feeling unhappy and unable to easily vent towards others, go home and be in front of your wife or husband. It is easy to be angered by some small things in life, which may also be a way to vent negative emotions inside.
After finishing work in the afternoon, Xiaoqing went to a classmate gathering and met her good friend Xiaodan, who was working as a journalist. The two of them, who had not seen each other for a long time, got together and started chatting from work to life, and then to each other's husbands and children. Speaking of Xiaogang's bad temper, Xiaoqing smiled wrongly at her good friend and said, "Perhaps only in front of my lover can he lose his temper." However, Xiaodan did not think so. She believed that due to the special relationship between husband and wife, although people like to lose their temper in front of their lover, this does not mean adopting a submissive attitude towards their lover's bad temper, The correct method should be the most appropriate way to cure a lover's bad temper.
Speaking of this, Xiaodan took a move for Xiaoqing. She lent her usual recording pen for interviews to Xiaoqing and repeatedly instructed her.
In the evening, Xiaoqing returned a bit late due to the party. Although Xiaogang went to the kindergarten on time to pick up her son, he was quite dissatisfied with Xiaoqing's late return. Not a word was said correctly, and Xiaogang's hot temper returned. This time, Xiaoqing did not confront Xiaogang head-on, but secretly opened the recording pen that Xiaodan had lent her. After a tantrum, Xiao Gang gradually calmed down. After taking a shower and returning to his room to sleep, Xiao Gang found that his wife did not fall asleep with her back facing him angrily after the usual argument, but rather lay half in bed, seemingly waiting for him.
After Xiaogang went to bed, Xiaoqing turned on the recording of the evening argument. At first, Xiaogang was surprised, but after hearing his angry and unscrupulous words in the recording, Xiaogang remained silent for a long time, turned back and looked deeply at Xiaoqing, saying "I'm sorry".
Intimacy may be a reason to get angry with a loved one, but it cannot be an excuse. When a loved one loses their temper, avoid tit for tat or adding fuel to the fire. When people are angry and have extreme emotions, they are most likely to exacerbate conflicts. At this time, even reasoning and judging right and wrong often cannot be effective. Therefore, first learn to remain calm and not engage in military battles. Find ways to calm down your partner's anger as soon as possible, and then try to persuade and enlighten your partner. Sometimes, it is also possible to bear the blame against one's heart first, and then slowly and patiently reason with the loved one after their temper calms down.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
