Post Date December, 03 2023
In recent years, there have been significant changes in the mate selection criteria for men seeking marriage, with "whether the woman has money" becoming the second largest criterion after "young and beautiful". Especially for men aged 40-50 who have experienced marital failure, their families break down after a career failure, and their career is approaching its end. Therefore, they place greater emphasis on women's economic conditions. In fact, whether men or women, we all advocate economic self-reliance. However, compared to women who lean towards wealthy individuals, men's desire to lean towards wealthy women is more likely to indicate that women's social and economic status has truly improved.
Offering food, flowers, marriage, no end
Mr. Wang (male, staff member of our matchmaking agency): A man who is around 40 years old now is laid off or has poor work efficiency. He only earns four or five hundred yuan a month, while others only get two hundred yuan. He is lazy and lacks any skills, which has been abandoned by his wife. However, he is very handsome and willing to find a female tycoon. There have been more and more men like this in recent years. After meeting a female tycoon here, if they feel good, they usually cohabit. The female provides them with food and drinks, but they won't give them 180000 yuan to spend, and they won't easily marry them. Who believes anyone nowadays, and female tycoons are also very skilled, knowing that these people are after their money.
Collaborative: Desiring to develop oneself through a woman's career
Ms. Li (female, director of the matchmaking agency): The forest has grown, and there are all kinds of birds. There are still more women than men who are greedy for money when it comes to finding partners, but in recent years, men's attitudes have also changed. I once had a Mr. Jin here, and he frankly told me, "I want to find a woman with a successful career, work together in a career, and strive for a comeback
Mr. Jin is a talented person with a handsome appearance. He has been divorced for three years and holds a bachelor's degree. He has also served as a factory manager of a state-owned enterprise. Due to a poor relationship with the director in charge, I left my original unit and went to Hainan to set up a business on my own. Last year, I returned to Xi'an and began to consider finding a partner who could be helpful in my career.
Mr. Jin said, "I have a brilliant career, with endless scenery and a cloud of women around me. But now I am a hero with no place to play. I want to put in more effort in my career, and successful women can build a platform for my career. Therefore, what I am looking for is a partner like wife, and I don't care about being older
Investment model: No success in career, greedy for enjoyment
Ms. Chu (female, teacher): I have a classmate who is 42 years old and recently divorced. He has a lot of artistic talent, but his paintings are never appreciated. He once said to me, "I long for marriage, value my family very much, and I really hope to have a happy and stable life." His economic foundation is not very strong, and he gave his ex-wife his house when he divorced, living in a single dormitory, and the process of socializing with women was not very smooth. He likes others, but they don't like him; People look up to him, but he doesn't look up to them. After experiencing a marital upheaval, he now feels that living at home requires money. If neither of them has money, it can only be a matter of mourning for a poor couple.
There are not a few men with a mentality like my classmate's. Most of them are in their early 40s, with good looks, good physique, and a lively lifestyle. However, they lack strong points in their careers, have soft personalities, and some have almost nothing in their wealth. When looking for a partner once the marriage fails, it is easy to harbor a "speculative" mentality, hoping to find a comfortable new life. When looking for a dating partner, it is not important to consider whether the other person's physical condition is old or not, but mainly to consider whether the woman has money. After marriage, it does not matter whether they become the "head of the family". But such men find it difficult to find suitable partners.
Dependency type: relying on grace to eat soft meals
Ms. Gao (female, staff member of a matchmaking agency): Currently, there are also some middle-aged men who come specifically for the purpose of "approaching wealthy women" in matchmaking agencies. They are around 45 to 55 years old and have become accustomed to a luxurious lifestyle. They appear to have an extraordinary demeanor and good conversation, but have nothing in their careers. They have lived together with "wealthy women" for a long time. There is a Mr. Wang who is very handsome and goes to a beauty salon for skin care once a week. For a romantic woman, he can accompany her through a street under the street lights at night; For a real woman, he can give her various heartfelt small gifts, a bunch of sweet words that have been repeated N times, and even comb her hair and wash her feet. Some single middle-aged women with empty emotions and substantial family assets are also willing to choose such "sexual partners".
There was once a 47-year-old female boss who opened two profitable companies in Xi'an. During a social event held at a matchmaking agency, she met a man in his 50s, who was 1.78 meters tall and had a typical image of a basketball player. She was capable and healthy, and they fell in love at first sight. After knowing each other for a month, they cohabited. The man's financial source is entirely dependent on the woman's supply. After a long time of deep love, the woman was very eager to marry the man, and even claimed: "As long as you marry me, all the money can be given to you." However, the man was unwilling to give up his lustful life and extorted the woman's property in things such as buying a house and decorating. The woman almost collapsed after learning about it.
Climbing for money and power has existed since ancient times
Mr. He (male, reporter): Climbing to power and money have been around since ancient times. Wu Zetian once had a male favorite, and ancient emperors were even more beautiful than 3000 in the harem. However, in the traditional patriarchal society, under the constraints of the concept that women have no talent and are virtuous, and when society does not provide opportunities for women to learn, find employment, engage in business, and become officials, the main value of women is to have children and their beauty. Women have always been passive in their sexual relationships and marital choices. It is often said that women are attracted to wealthy individuals because they lack social resources such as money and power, so they are willing to trade their youth and beauty for money. Nowadays, the occurrence of men leaning against wealthy women indicates that society has advanced and women have more and more social resources. In gender relationships, women have not only young and beautiful, but also a new resource, money. Although many young women look down on such men, objectively speaking, the emergence of this phenomenon from one side indicates that the status of women in today's society has really improved.
