Post Date December, 03 2023
Don't feel like you know your lover very well and know exactly what he or she thinks. It's impossible. In your relationship, there will definitely be mistakes. Therefore, in your relationship, it is important to communicate more with your spouse and listen to their ideas and suggestions. Don't take it personally and completely follow your ideas, which can sometimes hurt your lover.
So, what should we pay attention to when two people get along?
First, don't be a shadow catcher
The most important thing between a husband and wife is trust. If you stare at each other all day long, as long as there is any hint of trouble from the other, you will doubt how the other person is doing and start picking on each other's faults... This kind of shadowy suspicion makes both people angry and difficult to communicate, eventually causing the relationship to break down.
I suggest that if you have any questions, you can write a letter for your lover. However, it is important to note that it is not to write your questions directly, but to let the other party guess. You will find that many of his statements are inconsistent with your ideas. Therefore, when in doubt, don't just blame him directly, but clarify the facts.
Second, don't forget to be grateful
"Everything a loved one does for you is because they love you, but don't take it for granted that they do it, and they can also refrain from doing it.". There is nothing that should or should not be done because I love you, and there is nothing wrong with not doing it. "Their efforts need to be responded to, rather than the actual indifference or indifference that comes after their efforts.".
Therefore, it is very important to express your gratitude to your lover. Therefore, it is important to get rid of the three negative attitudes of power, unrealistic expectations, and feigned forgetfulness in relationships. It is recommended that you write down the major and minor things your spouse has done for you. Ask yourself if you have expressed gratitude for these things and how it is expressed. Keep expressing gratitude for a week, and you'll notice the changes.
Third, don't blame each other
In the relationship between two people, there must be many unpleasant things, sometimes because of you, sometimes because of each other, but no matter who it is, you cannot blame each other. Accusations do not solve the problem, but rather affect the relationship between you. So when things go wrong, first think about what responsibility you should pay instead of saying, "It's all your fault!"
When encountering hardship or trouble, don't blindly accuse the other party of how to handle it. Remember, "Impulse is the devil." It is recommended that everyone write down your complaint against your lover, then ask yourself, examine your responsibilities, and finally discuss solutions.
Experts point out that no one is perfect, and two people are bound to encounter various things in their relationship, both good and bad. However, it is important to remember to be grateful when encountering good things; When encountering bad things, remember to understand. This can warm up your relationship, and good emotions are an important prerequisite for a perfect sexual life.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
