Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband is very considerate, and when he falls in love, he treats me like a porcelain doll, holding me in his hand and caring for me. For example, he always lets me walk on his right side, because the left side is the roadway; I said I wanted to eat a cake, and he would ride his bike (before buying a car) in the heavy rain to buy me the best cake from far away; He would wake up early in winter mornings and buy me the best breakfast
At that time, he was very gentle and considerate to me, and I also loved him very much. After a year of dating, I am getting married.
Previously, I had a boyfriend, but that was during my school years. After graduation, everyone broke up and we were in a pure relationship without any deviant behavior. That relationship was actually very light, and he didn't ask, so I didn't say it.
More than a month before getting married, my ex boyfriend sent me a letter, writing about some past events, saying that he would treat them as good memories and wishing me happiness. I originally didn't want to show this letter to my husband because he is quite jealous. Whenever I talk to a man too much, he will be unhappy. At that time, I always thought he loved me too much.
Unfortunately, this letter was actually seen by my husband. He was a bit unhappy when he concealed the fact that he had been in love from me. I explained that it was all over before he believed it.
On the day of my wedding, many of my classmates came to attend the wedding. During the wedding, some of my close male classmates had a little too much fun and kissed me. At that time, my husband's face changed.
After my classmates left, I wanted to explain to my husband that those students were just playful and had no other meaning. Just as I said, "My few male classmates...", my husband slapped me with a loud blow, and I fell into bed all over.
I was in a daze at the time. No one had ever slapped me before, and I never expected to get slapped by my husband. I was very angry and wanted to rush over and hit him, but his strength was stronger than mine and he quickly subdued me.
After breaking free, I rushed out of the house and walked aimlessly on the road. I feel very aggrieved in my heart. There is probably no more miserable bride in the world than me. On my wedding night, I was beaten by my husband and became homeless.
Later, in the early morning, he found me on the road and kept apologizing to me. He knelt down at me, saying that he was too jealous. He rarely kissed me, and even let those smelly men kiss him. He was very jealous and couldn't control himself.
I think it was my classmate who went too far, so I forgave him and went home with him.
I can't bear his violence
I thought that after that slap, the days would be smooth, but the fact proved that I was wrong. That slap was just the beginning.
On the second day of his wedding, his husband became angry again. He thought I had a relationship with my ex boyfriend and didn't believe what I said. This has become a thorn in our future lives, and many arguments and fights have been caused by this matter.
After less than six months of marriage, I wanted to get divorced. When people get married, their faces will shine with the nourishment of their marriage life, but I am getting thinner and thinner, losing a full 20 pounds compared to before marriage, and the whole person is also very listless.
My husband often hits me, from slapping to slapping, from slapping to punching and kicking, just like hitting me like a sandbag. At first, I resisted, but later found out that the more I resisted, the harder he fought, and I really didn't have the strength to resist, so I had to admit it. At that time, I was still at work and often had bruises and bruises on my body. I could only tell my colleagues that I was too confused and accidentally fell. Sometimes when I get beaten too hard, I take leave at home.
At first, I didn't say anything, but later I couldn't help it anymore. I felt that if I was beaten like this again, I would definitely die, so I turned to my best friend for help. I dare not tell my parents that they are getting older and I don't want them to worry. Moreover, I only have one sister who is very gentle and cannot compete with him. At that time, I really longed to have a brother who could rescue me from his fists.
After all, my little sister is also an outsider, so it's not convenient to participate in our household chores. I can only insinuate and tell him to treat me better. That night, he hit me again, saying I was talking nonsense outside. I was beaten so hard that I fled to my little sister's house for the night.
Afterwards, I often did this and was beaten to death, so I went to my little sister's house for the night. My little sister even keeps my pajamas, towels, and toothbrush at home.
My little sister advised me to divorce, and I think it's better to divorce myself, otherwise I will be killed sooner or later. But at that moment, I actually found out that I was pregnant. The baby is very strong, able to withstand her father's punches and kicks and stay inside my body safely.
At that time, I had a slight illusion that with children, my husband and I should be able to make up as usual. But I was wrong.
Marriage has become a nightmare
During those few months of pregnancy, my husband seemed to be the considerate person he used to be, taking care of me meticulously. In fact, when he doesn't hit me, he basically treats me very well and is extremely considerate. Every time he finishes, he is also in great pain, kneeling on the ground and begging me to give him another chance, but next time, he even hits harder.
Three months after the child was born, he began to take action against me again. Due to childbirth, I took a long maternity leave. After hearing that I had a daughter, many colleagues called me to congratulate me. Our leader is a man who also called me to congratulate me and asked me to rest and hurry back to work. He even joked that he couldn't do without me.
This made my husband hear me. When I hung up the phone, I felt a chill in my spine. As soon as I turned my head, I realized that my husband was staring at me fiercely. I instinctively wanted to escape, but he grabbed my hair and beat me, cursing me for being reckless.
I was afraid he would take out his anger on the child, so I struggled to run out and went to spend the night at my little sister's house. Fortunately, the longer the child grows, the more they resemble him. Otherwise, they cannot escape his claws. Previously, he hit me many times because he suspected me, but later on, it became a habit to hit me when he was unhappy.
Afraid of my cheating outside, my husband firmly let me resign. I have no other choice but to become a full-time wife.
The child grows up day by day and looks very cute. Although I have a lot of bitterness and want to divorce, seeing the child's cute face makes me forget everything. I want to give my child a complete home, at least on the surface it looks complete. Although he often beats me, he loves his daughter very much and is reluctant to touch her hair. If I say a few harsh words to her, he will not be happy.
A child growing up in such a family has no cowardice or autism. My daughter is very lively and talkative: say hello to my father in front of him; Always comfort me in front of me, Mom, I will definitely treat you well and well; In front of my uncle and aunt, she would say, 'Don't tell my father about this, he will be unhappy...' She knows that when he is unhappy, he will hit his mother, and she is very protective of me. I think that's how it feels to say that my daughter is my mother's caring little cotton jacket.
Several times, I escaped from home with my daughter and stood by the lake, asking her, "Mom, can you jump off?" The daughter hesitated and said, "Okay, but I'll wait until I fall asleep before jumping." It made me very sad. At that time, she was only four or five years old.
I definitely want a divorce. I don't want to spend my entire life with someone like him. He's not my husband, he's just a nightmare for me. But I plan to divorce my child when she is 18 years old. I want to wait for her to grow up.
I really hope there's a third party, so I'll be free
Later, I remember in 2003, many TV stations were promoting Mei Ting's "Don't Talk to Strangers". During that time, I didn't dare to watch it. My husband, like An Jiahe, would beat me to the death. More importantly, as soon as my husband sees me, I will show the same expression as An Jiahe. It is eerie, and I feel that the evil energy is about to erupt, so I will pounce on me and hit him fiercely.
My husband also watched that drama, and he thought it was very normal. He wanted to teach his disobedient wife a lesson. He even said that his father taught his mother the same lesson. It seems that his violence is due to family factors, because my mother-in-law really has no status at home, being called around by their father and son, without any dignity. Fortunately, the daughter I gave birth to, if she were a son, I don't know what kind of violence she would be influenced by them.
My daughter is 9 years old now and has already entered elementary school. I have been living there for 10 years now, and these 10 years have been really difficult. She often runs away to stay at her little sister's house in the middle of the night, and the little sister even decorated her room as my exclusive room.
After another 10 years, I should be able to free myself from this nightmare.
But recently, I have noticed that he has some abnormalities, such as hiding to send text messages, hiding to surf the internet, using a disgusting tone to make phone calls, and every call lasts for an hour... All kinds of signs indicate that he seems to have found a second spring. If that's the case, then for me, it's also a relief. With a third party, he focused all his attention on her and probably wouldn't have time to hit me often.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
