Post Date December, 03 2023
I'd like to know the details of love between my husband and lover
My husband and I are college classmates. We got married in 2003. After marriage, he also treated me very well, but because of the work relationship, we have been living in two separate places. We only met during the holiday. Fortunately, I have more holidays because I am a teacher.
It was originally thought that I would resign after he got married and became stable in Guangzhou. At that time, the idea might be naive. But it's not so easy. The ideal is so far from the reality. We have a bad life in the years after our marriage. Maybe we set our goal too high at the beginning and can't achieve it all the time, so we began to be upset. They often quarrel over some minor matters and don't live together, so it is difficult to achieve "fight at the head of the bed and fight at the end of the bed" and lack communication. There is much noise, and feelings are weak.
In 2007, he fell in love online and had an abnormal relationship with that woman. I also found it by accident. I am a very traditional woman. I can't accept the fact that he sleeps with other women. My reaction at that time was very fierce.
I thought of death, and I lost my mind completely. He said to me at that time that he hoped that we would not fight in the future and continue to have a good life. But I insisted on divorce. He told me not to divorce, but he didn't say to beg for it. I can't see how reluctant he is. God, we went to civil affairs several times without leaving. We didn't go to work or didn't have a divorce certificate. He also said that it was God's will to tell me to leave, saying that as long as I don't fight, I can have a good life in the future.
In fact, I still love him, I just can't accept it! I would rather give up my job for him. I would like to live with him no matter how poor or bitter my married life is. I don't have to worry about my children. It's all my responsibility.
I thought that while I was working hard, he was also doing his best for the family. I was afraid that he would be under pressure. I didn't ask for a penny from him at ordinary times. I also saved food and clothing myself. Even to save some fares, I didn't agree with him when I think about it. I know this is wrong. I should not refuse him to come back to see me, but I want to improve my life, I can resign, and then I can have a family reunion. I didn't expect this result.
We haven't divorced yet. Apart from children, we also love each other. He promised me not to look for the woman again. The woman called and I just received it. So she also knew that I had known about her and my husband. I learned from my husband that she also had husband and children, and came here from other provinces to work.
My husband said that at the beginning, she was sympathetic to her because she said that she was miserable in front of my husband. Her parents died early, she was raped by her husband and had no choice but to marry, she was often abused by her husband, and so on. Anyway, all the misfortunes in the world fell on her.
She also often told my husband that the economy was difficult and borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from him. She told my husband that she would pay back. After the incident, I asked her to pay back the money in the name of my husband. If she refused, I said she was a liar in the name of my husband. I said I loved the wrong person and wanted to call the police.
Since then she has disappeared. My husband is in business, and his mobile phone number has not changed. I am also worried that she will find my husband again, but he said he did not. He said he also thought she was a liar.
The past two years have passed. He worked very hard in these two years, and his life has improved a lot. He is also very good to me. I believe that he has not found another woman, and I will not let him go home to save the fare. In the eyes of others, we have restored the original days of love.
However, at night, my mind will constantly see him and his lover making love together. I lost my mind again, and then quarreled about it. I often ask about him and her, such as what positions are there for making love? How is her figure? Where did you kiss her? wait. He is often asked to be angry. When he is angry, we begin to quarrel.
Especially at night, it often makes everyone sleep poorly. When I see programs or articles about derailment on TV, I will feel sad. At this time, even if he is not around, I will call him to tell him about the derailment and make noise.
He said he didn't want to mention it again, but I think he was evading. I think he still loved her, which he denied. When he calmed down, he would comfort me and tell me to forget the past. He said that it would never happen again. He told me not to mention it again. He said that he was confused for a while and only loved me. I believed him when he said this. I can see that he still loves me very much. But I really can't control my mood. I can't get out of the shadow that he betrayed me!
When I think that he once loved other women so much, I can't stand it. Sometimes I think that if he just went to find a young lady to play with and didn't pay for real feelings, I might not care so much. But he once loved her, and betrayed me mentally and physically. I can't stand it. What should I do? I'm going to collapse. Sometimes I really want to die.
Expert reply:
1: What position do you have sex with her. (You will make noise even if you say it or not, which will make men lose their self-esteem, and life will not be easy.)
2: What parts did you kiss her. (Asking these questions will only make men lose their physical interest in you. A frigid life will make women cold.)
3: What is the most romantic thing you said to her. (Do you want to hear men say romantic things to you or do you really want to hear men say romantic things?)
4: You really loved her.
5: What are her advantages.
As long as you forgive a man, don't dwell on the problem. Otherwise, the plot will repeat. Women should have brains, not just quarrel. If quarrel can solve all problems, you will not go to this stage. Sometimes women should give men the right needs instead of refusing.
In another position, you don't want your man to ask him about the details of the derailment. Even if he is a good scar, it will hurt to uncover it.
