Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband's ex-wife worked in a small clinic. Once, my husband's parents returned to their hometown. His ex-wife picked up their children. At about 3:00 in the evening, he received a call from her ex-wife. Her ex-wife cried and said that there was a big bag behind the child's ear. I don't know what to do. Let him go. At that time, we just got the certificate. He drove over and took the child to the hospital for examination. He said it was acute mumps. He came back soon.
Later, I asked the child (my relationship with the child is still quite good): Does your mother know what your illness is? The child said that at night he felt hurt and cried. His mother turned on the light and looked at it. She said it was nothing but mumps. Then she called my current husband. What's the purpose of that woman? Can I live such a day? Is my husband true to me? When we got married, although he invited his colleagues and friends to have a wedding dinner together, he also dragged me to his college classmates' group and introduced me to his college classmates. His relatives and friends introduced me one by one, and took me with them as soon as they went out, but I still worried.
I don't know if I understand. Anyway, life is very depressing. My life is very peaceful and leisurely from small to large. I can't live such a day. When her ex-wife picked up the baby and talked loudly at the door, I was angry. I always felt that such a marriage was not reliable. It would be me who could not persist.
I really despise a woman like his ex-wife. A woman should have her own dignity. She doesn't want to find her. Nobody wants her. She doesn't look up to my husband. My husband is honest and honest, and he can't talk. But she still doesn't want my husband to find her. What should I do? Thank you. I look forward to your analysis.
I can be completely independent financially and have no problem raising two children. I told my mother-in-law that I don't know about your family. If I knew it was so complicated, I wouldn't marry. If you want her to come back, I can leave now. It's not too late. I can support two children. My mother-in-law said that she didn't let her in. She had to go in herself. After all, she was the child's mother. My mother-in-law would press me with this sentence. She never thought this was my home. I am the hostess here now. I asked her, when you are old, will she serve you? My mother-in-law said that she couldn't support herself. How could she serve her. I said, what are you doing? I know your son is divorced. I don't know. I thought your son had an affair with me. I thought I was a mistress, or would her mother-in-law call her all day? My mother-in-law has nothing to say.
My mother-in-law also called and said that she was not allowed to enter the door again. Just pick up the child downstairs, but the woman still came. My husband called me and scolded her for what she was doing all day and asked her if she wanted to face me? But his ex-wife knocked at the door. It's really cheeky. My mother-in-law said that she didn't look for it. She looked for it a lot. Finally, people everywhere would not want her. Except for spending money to eat, drink and have fun, it is not a day at all. Who can want it!
She always comes like this. I think my husband and mother-in-law allowed her. She is the mother of the child. So I feel that life is not secure. I always want to leave. I feel very depressed and have no leisure time. He is also a second marriage, and I am also a second marriage. I can handle emotional matters properly. Why can't he be a big man? Why must he be so messy? I don't believe that my husband can't put down his ex-wife. They are cold all day. How can they have feelings? In my mother-in-law's words, they don't talk all day. I just don't understand. What does that woman mean? What are you doing all day? Just to watch the children? It's annoying to pick it up at 9:00 in the morning and deliver it at 9:00 in the evening.
[Reply]
In the process of marriage reorganization, there will be many problems in the remarriage life, and the aspects involved are more complex, because there are issues related to the exes and children of both parties. In fact, for dealing with these complex situations, we should have a psychological preparation before choosing a second marriage. We should think ahead of time. Don't wait for the problem to appear before lamenting the difficulty of remarriage. What else can we do besides deal with it at this time.
For your husband's ex-wife who comes to your house frequently and deliberately makes mistakes, which brings troubles to your marriage life, you need to adjust your mind first, calmly and actively respond, don't blindly negative resistance, don't easily back down, and don't complain and annoy your mother-in-law. The main thing is to let your husband come forward to deal with this problem. He is a big man, which is his own problem. If this matter can't be handled properly, Then he has no right to let himself choose to remarry and enjoy the happiness of remarriage.
Take his ex-wife's visit to the children as an example. It is undeniable that the husband and wife are divorced, and the other party has the right to visit the children, but it takes a while to visit the children. There must be a specific statement and a clear time and number of times. For this reason, your husband needs to clarify this matter with his ex-wife. Whether she is coming to visit or pick up the child, she should say hello in advance, pay attention to her behavior and words and deeds, and do not interfere with other people's marriage life, or you can go to the police and accuse her of wanton harassment. After all, you are now a legal couple. She has dissolved the marriage relationship with your husband. You have the right to protect your legal marriage rights.
So, in this matter, you need to fully stand on the side of your husband, help him make ideas and find ways, instead of just being sensitive, jealous or even suspicious. You should fully trust your husband. It must be that your husband and his ex-wife have not done anything bad. Even if you suspect, you should have the basis for suspicion. Don't you know what your husband is and his ex-wife is? Therefore, it is wise to work with your husband to fight against his ex-wife's damage to you.
His ex-wife's true state of mind is nothing more than: he is not happy, and he does not want others to be happy, so he will disturb you. Facing her unhealthy state of mind, you should have a good state of mind, or you will fail. I think the more she deliberately interferes with you, the more you should show your love, harmony and happiness with your husband. It hurts her to see it in the eyes. As long as you manage your relationship and marriage with your husband, she will finally feel that she is asking for trouble. This is also the wisest way to deal with a rogue woman.
In short, the life of remarriage is not so smooth. If you don't have a strong, inclusive and intelligent heart, what will you do to manage your own happiness?
