Post Date April, 15 2023
Recently, a British survey coalition called "super drug" conducted a survey among several couples and lovers. The results show that the neglect of partners, especially the "one question and three unknowns" about their life details, is one of the important reasons for the rise of the divorce demography in Britain. Among the surveyed men, 12% did not know their partner's birthday; 39% of people want to "guess" the size of their partner's underwear and shoe size; 35% could not remember the brand and taste of perfume their partners liked; 11% of men cannot recall their wife's hair color or what hairstyle they wear when going out every day; 10% of people do not understand the content of the other party's work; 54% of people are unable to memorize their partner's phone number, and even 23% admit to having "no knowledge" of their partner.
Faced with the survey results, Wang Yuru, president of the Shanghai Psychological Counseling Industry Association and director of the Zhiyin Psychological Counseling Center, admitted: "It is easy to get along with each other in love, but difficult to maintain marriage in marriage." One important reason is that men and women have different understandings and maintenance methods of marriage and love. Women are naturally delicate, pay attention to details, and are accustomed to measuring and judging their partner's love for them through small things. Most men are careless, and it is difficult to understand why women always struggle with themselves in small matters. Over time, conflicts may arise between the two. In fact, marriage is a real life, and the many details of a couple's life are the best interpretation of love. My wife comes back from a business trip, even if it's not a sumptuous dinner; When sick, take pills and a cup of hot water by the bedside; Shopping on the street, the husband being able to proactively carry the bag - these are all "positive energies" that maintain marital stability.
Marriage has never been as unsafe as it is today, but our pursuit of a safe marriage has never changed. The quality of marriage lies in maintaining it at all times, with daily care and love as the foundation, and mutual satisfaction in psychological, physiological and other details as the core. Wang Yuru explained that the details in life are the determining factors that make the relationship between couples develop in a good direction. Men should learn to be 'motherly' and be good at using sweet words. For example, if a wife wears new clothes or changes her hairstyle, she should take a closer look and praise her beauty. When a wife is doing household chores, even if she can't get in the way, her husband may as well stand by and chat with her, saying 'You've worked hard' to make her feel fully recognized for the value of her labor. If the husband is busy with work for a period of time and neglects to care for his wife, then prepare a gift with a card to make the other person feel the weight in your heart.
The maintenance of marriage requires joint efforts from both parties, and women cannot take for granted the care they receive from their husbands. It is best for women not to have the idea of transforming their partners, except for giving them care in life. If you are dissatisfied with some of your partner's behavior, you can speak up and express your dissatisfaction with this practice. Two people slowly approach each other to find a new balance point. Women's excessive demands and dependence on their partners can also lead to the loss of love. No one can consistently follow others, and no one wants to be consistently followed. In life, don't forget to leave a psychological "oxygen bar" for your husband. Finally, women should maintain independence and continuously enhance their vitality and charm. This can cause men to experience a slight sense of insecurity and novelty, prompting them to focus more on you.
