My husband and I have been married for nearly 20 years. Three months ago, on a business trip, I met another man. They felt very good. I couldn't resist the temptation to cheat. My husband wants to divorce me after he knows it. Now I regret my behavior very much and feel sorry for my husband. I hope my husband will forgive me for the sake of children, because I clearly know that I still love my husband, children and the family we have built together. My husband agreed not to divorce, but he was very indifferent to me. Seeing the pain and indifference of his husband, my heart was more painful, and I deeply regretted that his behavior had caused him harm. I wanted to ask Brother Shan for help. What should I do to make up for my injury to my husband, and to restore my husband's trust and understanding?
Please reply! Hope
The most intolerable thing for a man is the hatred of killing his father and taking his wife. Of course, although you have not been taken away by other men, it is naturally intolerable for your husband to be cuckolded. However, life is complex, everything can happen, and people always do wrong things. Although you betrayed your husband and did something stupid, you have a sincere sense of repentance. I think if your husband still cares about you, he will slowly choose to forgive you, but his inner wounds need more time to heal.
For this kind of thing, no man has such a broad mind. You have to give the other party a process of forgetting and dissolving. Or maybe he will live in a shadow all his life, or maybe he will be left out to you endlessly, but you have to bear it, because this is the price you have to pay for it. Who made you not clean enough at the beginning. Everyone needs to pay the corresponding cost for making mistakes. You can only accept them frankly and remind yourself to attract lessons and learn to grow.
It is really difficult to arouse your husband's trust in you again. It may take you to make long-term efforts, maybe for a while, maybe for a lifetime. It depends on your own efforts and the nature of heaven. For this reason, you need to be prepared for the worst.