I am a second-tier provincial capital city. I am in my third year of age. I am 183985 and graduated from a university. I work in a large state-owned enterprise. My salary is stable and has provident fund. At the beginning of the year, my family introduced a girl whose aunt was my mother's colleague and whose parents were government officials. My parents are ordinary employees of state-owned enterprises. I hesitated when I heard about the girl's family background. I felt that the two generations of officials were not easy to contact, but I also wanted to have a family when I was nearly 30, so I contacted.
After meeting, I didn't feel good at first. She wore heavy makeup and spoke in a rough voice. I felt that the girl had no meaning through chat. My mother said that all the girls have RV in their homes, and I'm only 23 years old and I'm not worried about finding someone to take advantage of.
Because my parents are old, I also don't want to let my parents work too hard for my marriage and buying a house. I think the girl should be superficial if she is superficial. If it is successful, at least her family can have more houses, so I decided to contact her.
But the more she contacts, the more her shortcomings will be exposed. She is a graduate of three or an art student. It is very difficult to communicate at ordinary times. I like to watch some international news and military news. Sometimes she also shows little interest in discussing international relations with her.
She works as a Taobao artist in a small company. Although her salary is very high, she often works overtime day and night. Sometimes when she comes out to eat, she feels like she will fall asleep. I feel that she doesn't respect me very much.
We quarreled many times about her working overtime. I am a very traditional person in my heart. I think women can have jobs, but can't delay the family. But she actually said that if she doesn't work, she can't have money to eat, drink, buy clothes and buy bags. I feel that her life is hedonistic and has no spirit of dedication and hard work for others.
The most important reason is actually the different consumption concepts. Every time we go out to meet her, she will go to that kind of expensive restaurant, such as the place where the average person is more than one hundred in Haidi Laohuang Jihuang.
My parents, including me, are very frugal people. My mother has been wearing a sweater for more than ten years and can't afford to throw it away. I usually try to stay at home to avoid spending money, but I spend hundreds every time I go out on a date with her. Although it's AA, I still feel a little uncomfortable.
Once, I made a tentative joke with her about whether the salary card would be handed over to me after marriage. She said that she could open a public account and both parties would pay for family expenses. I realized at that time that she had always treated me as an outsider, and was also silly and sad for a long time.
Last week, I broke out with her about spending money, which was the biggest quarrel I have ever known. The other day when we were shopping, she saw a shop that said it wanted to eat ice cream. The shop looked very expensive. I said that I would wait and find a supermarket to eat something. She had to go to the shop to buy it and let me wait for her outside. When she came out, I asked her how much ice cream was. She said it was more than 70, and I got angry instantly.
I said that your parents didn't beat you when you spent so much money. She was even fiercer than me in the street and yelled at me and said that it was necessary to approve to spend your own money. I said that your family didn't teach you well, so I will teach you. We quarreled in the street at that time.
I said that you are an adult. It is really childish to spend so much money for food. Money should be spent on the blade and not on such messy buying of clothes and food. She said that she made money and spent it as a matter of course. How she spent her money is not up to others to point out and draw feet. Then we parted with each other.
After I came back, I thought for a long time, and remembered that my mother saved money and saved money to report me to various training classes, and cooked chicken soup and gave me chicken to eat rice. She would be very sad to know that my girlfriend is such a spendthrift, grumpy and uneducated person, but I dare not tell her that she has great hopes for my relationship and has been urging me to bring her back when.
I know that it is unfair for me to be with my girlfriend because of her good family, but I also tolerate her many shortcomings. To be fair, I am really a good-tempered man. If I change other men, I will start.
So I'm very contradictory now. I understand that neither I nor my family can tolerate this kind of black sheep as daughters-in-law, but my family really can't get out of the wedding room, and the girl who speaks politely, industriously and economically and has a rich family background doesn't look up to me. So I want to ask my friends what suggestions they have, whether to give her up or change her?
From the beginning to the end, I found that the other girl didn't spend your money and didn't swipe your card. According to the character of the subject, if something happened, "the boy's money was spent by the girl, but the girl didn't buy things for the boy", it would definitely be a big book.
The only reason for quarreling in the street is that they bought an ice cream of 70 yuan and still spent their own money. You can let her go and introduce her to me by the way. Don't spoil the good girl.
Also, I really can't understand how a man is ashamed to ask his wife for a salary card. I can't stand people working overtime to earn money. I tell you that people work so hard to avoid being angry with people like you in life and to avoid meeting people like you.
Small editor spicy review
Men like that guy are not really wonderful - such men are very common. Once they fall in love, they immediately become like angels, guarding their girlfriend's money every minute. If you talk about marriage, it is even more terrible. The woman with a bank card immediately becomes his property and enters his strict monitoring range: you can't spend my money, and you can't spend your money freely.
Yes, the reason they like to talk about most is that "when we get married in the future, there are many places where we need money"; Although they have never bought a valuable gift for the woman, they hate women's money worship more than any man in the world. Women swipe their cards and cut meat from him every minute.
What's more, they are best at convicting women, using the divine logic of "one as one hundred". Many girls sometimes buy a bag with less than half a month's salary. Why? Because her boyfriend has no money, or money seems to have no intention of giving her this bag, and she desperately wants it, so she has to cut back and buy it. But in his boyfriend's eyes, instead of being a little distressed, he was angry. He said that the spendthrift women would certainly be uneasy if they got married in the future!
I think such a man is really a little worried. God will make him pay attention to his solitary life. There is no chance of marriage, and of course, there is no need to worry about marrying a black sheep and having a bad life after marriage.