Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I got married after falling in love for one year and six months. When we were not married, I found that he often called his ex-girlfriend, but his ex-girlfriend didn't answer his phone. He added his ex-girlfriend with many QQ numbers and WeChat messages, and his ex-girlfriend didn't agree to add him as a friend.
When I got married in March this year, I always found that he wanted to contact his ex-girlfriend. I knew he could not forget his ex-girlfriend. I was very heartbroken. When I was pregnant, he didn't care about me at all. I did all the housework, but he didn't do it. He doesn't work either. He just eats, drinks and sleeps every day. I was considerate enough to him. I even helped him cut his fingernails and toenails. He never helped me.
It is easy to get hungry in the late pregnancy. He is reluctant to cook for me when he is asked to cook supper at night. Sometimes he cooks because he is hungry too. I do all kinds of housework every day like a nanny, take care of him like his mother, and cover his quilt at night. But he doesn't understand everything about me. He thinks about the woman who abandoned him every day. What should I do? Should we divorce him?
He also often goes out with a friend who has played from childhood to adulthood. He also asks his friend to introduce beautiful girls to him. He often goes out to play with women, collude with women, play mahjong, etc., play mahjong, sit opposite women, and take pictures of women with his mobile phone. My heart is broken. What should I do?
reply:
After reading your talk, I am very moved: I don't know whether you are married to your husband or are you lack of sons? In fact, the reason why you are so low is the result of your asking for it. Before marriage, you didn't open your eyes and make a blind choice to marry yourself. You know that the other party is not specific to you at the stage of love with you, but in the end, you still have a fluke mentality and go to marry him hand in hand. What is it?
According to your statement, before and after your marriage, your husband has always been obsessed with his ex-girlfriend, and constantly actively contacted. Even during your pregnancy, he not only does not work, but also idles every day and does not help you with household chores. He also often goes out to pile up with women and hook up with women. Then you also cut his fingernails and toenails, and help him cover the quilt like an old mother. Kiss, you spoiled him. Aren't you being cheap? You serve him like a nanny. What you finally get is nothing but a bitter tear! Who can blame this? Of course, you should blame yourself. You have connived him into a social parasite and scum!
You don't have your own bottom line and principles in marriage. I wonder what you love about this man at the beginning? This is often the case. Women often do not die until they reach the Yellow River and do not turn back until they hit the south wall. Now you have finally tasted heartbreak. Congratulations on your awareness of touching your bottom line. Then, please dry your tears, tidy up your mood, and face your choice again. Since you can't expect anything from this man at home, and he has nothing to contribute to the family except idle chatter. What can you do with him? If you have enough ability to afford to leave, of course, I support you to leave. The key is how determined you are.
Follow your true heart. I just want to say that some marriages can be saved, some can be repaired, some can be matched, and some are bound to collapse. Only you know how your marriage is. I also want to remind you that when making the final decision, please do not impose some unreasonable excuses and reasons on yourself, such as for children, for the elderly, etc. These are factors that need to be carefully considered, but should not become shackles to yourself.
