I met my first love 15 years ago at the party, abandoned my family and became his lover

My story goes like this: two years ago, at a gathering, my first love and I met after 15 years of separation. He turned from a poor boy to a wealthy man and began to pursue me fiercely. At that time, my relationship with my husband did indeed have problems, and in the end, I surrendered, abandoned my child and family, and became his lover. At that time, he was really kind to me. He always took me on business trips and socialized with me, introducing many of his friends to me. At the same time, he also hoped to have our child, but he wouldn't divorce. So I got pregnant, and it was the Chinese New Year. I was also three months pregnant, and I felt extremely tired and painful. Seeing everyone else reuniting as a family and thinking that my child had no mother, and this child was illegitimate, I became crazy. So I wanted to leave him, but he didn't agree. He wanted to give birth and take me and the child home.

But what do I have to face? How would they accept me and the child? It's too complicated! So I told him to take me home before the child was born. If he didn't accept it, at least the child wouldn't suffer with me, but he didn't agree! Later, under immense public opinion and pressure, he chose to give up his child and hoped that I would adjust my mindset, not mind external interference, and be happy with him. However, I really couldn't do it. After giving up my child, I left and once again, under pressure, returned to my child's side to take care of my husband.

The days have calmed down like this, and I want to compensate my husband, after all, it's my own fault. But this year during the Chinese New Year, he came to me again and said that he wouldn't lose me no matter what. At least he would compensate me materially, but I no longer need it. Everyone should learn to take responsibility when they are wrong, plain life is true, but how will I face it in the future? In the middle, I had an emotional impulse to call and text him every morning or after 10 pm, deliberately causing him to live a restless life and causing him to panic and become restless. But when I look back, will I be happy if his family breaks down and life is not good? His child has no mother, do I not feel guilty? Although he hurt me, am I not responsible?

Even so, now he still comes to compensate me, why on earth? Do I have to accept and make mistakes again? Continue to be morally condemned? Isn't he happier to leave me? Why does he need to talk to me? Why the hell is he? Teacher, can you share your suggestion?

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Hello, in life, everyone cannot withstand temptation and temptation. I don't know when our peaceful life will suddenly be disrupted. Are we too lonely, or are we too bored, or are we too indifferent to our current life?

Fifteen years ago, my lover was once caught by fate and let each other pass by. Fate played tricks on me, and I met that poor boy again at a chance gathering. Now I am a wealthy family, and for this, under his relentless pursuit, you can't bear it anymore. What did you get and what did you lose after using the excuse of having problems with your current marriage and going on a journey of infidelity, becoming his lover and mistress? What I have gained is immense pain, what I have lost is my past calm heart.

You have already realized your mistakes and awakened, and you have returned to the days when you should have kept your composure. However, it seems that there is a posture of trees wanting to be calm but the wind is not blowing. Is this really the case? Or is it that your own inner self is not firm enough? To put it simply, there is something restless in your bones that is causing you to be unwilling to live a simple life, suffer from material poverty, or have a boring marriage. It is precisely because you have retaliated against him that he feels uneasy through your hatred and wants to compensate you through material means.

To this end, you need to restrain your emotions and not waver. At critical moments, you must be firm in yourself and not make mistakes again. Think about your children and husband, as well as their children and wives. You should not ruin the happiness of others for yourself, and always adhere to your own principles and bottom line in life.