I married a second married man who owned a house and a car. After getting married, he tried every means to torture me, and I wanted to cry without tears

I suggest buying a house before marriage, even if it's a down payment, and we can share the responsibility for it later on. My boyfriend didn't agree, but the one who turned around and rubbed the corners said I was a materialistic woman. He wants to use his savings over the years to start a small business, and I agree with his idea. However, when he spoke to his parents, I was completely disappointed with him. He transferred the savings to his parents, afraid that I might pay attention to his money. After all these years of love, he didn't trust me at all. I was completely disappointed with him and proposed a breakup.

Since then, I have no longer believed in so-called emotions. I only have one condition when looking for a husband, which is to have a house and a car. Through a friend's introduction, I met my current husband, who is a divorced person. He is seven years older than me and runs his own company. He has all kinds of houses and cars. He fell in love with me at first sight and actively pursued me. Since the beginning of our relationship, he has been very considerate to me. His gentle and meticulous energy has warmed my heart. After falling in love for a while, we got married and soon had children.

After the child was born, there were more trivial matters in the family, and his attitude towards me had undergone a significant change in an invisible way. When he comes home from work, he will inexplicably lose his temper and criticize me in front of the child. He will yell at me and even start using his hand for small things.

At first, for the sake of the child's face, I didn't fight against him. Later, he became more and more aggressive, and in the argument, from a slight push to a later punches and kicks. These children are all visible in my eyes. The young baby's eyes are filled with fear and unease, and I feel very distressed. For the sake of the child, I endure it again and again. My patience did not stop him. He felt that taking action on me would not be effective, and even used words to insult me, saying that I was a complete gold digger. When I married him, I valued his money.

The more I heard it, the more it got out of place. He never mentioned money when he had a quarrel before. Later, after some investigation, I found out that it was my ex boyfriend who deliberately stirred up a rift and even told my husband about the two of us. I found my boyfriend and warned him to harass my family again. I won't let him go. But he disdained it and continued to fan the flames in front of my husband. In this way, a business person who is struggling in the business world will be controlled by a villain and obedient.

From this incident, I also saw my husband's distrust of me. The more powerful a person is, the smaller their heart. I mistook my husband and even more deeply understood our marriage. He would rather believe what a small person says than listen to the heartfelt words of my outgoing wife. My marriage has only lasted for two years, and I have been tormented unbearably. My grievances have nowhere to pour out. What should I do?

Please reply to the consultant:

Your husband has power and influence, and he would rather believe in a villain's one-sided words than his own wife, which shows his distrust of you. Trust is like the air between two people. When it exists, there is often no feeling, and everything is calm. Once trust no longer exists, any disturbance will cause a great sensation.

Just like today, your ex incited the flames and your husband's domestic violence, which severely damaged the harmony of your marriage. Domestic violence is not advisable. It is recommended to communicate with him and express your inner thoughts. Such tolerance will only make him more reckless. If the marriage cannot continue, you can sue for divorce, but this kind of torture should not be borne by you. Remember to protect your own rights. I wish you happiness.