I insisted on marrying a poor husband. After three years of marriage, the whole family used me as a nanny, and I stormed the door and left.

When I was an only child at home, I enjoyed advantageous conditions since childhood. The upbringing concept of "raising a poor son and a rich daughter" passed down from the older generation has nurtured me into a spoiled and spoiled personality, with a strong personality and a willingness to make decisions on my own, making things difficult to change. Because of this, when meeting someone I like, regardless of their family conditions, as long as it is what I like, I will try my best to get it.

My mother doesn't care about my love affairs, but she takes great care of my life. The marriage partner must pass her test before she can get married. "But I don't care. I chose my current husband, with average family conditions and rural background.". "I don't think rural boys have no prospects, and their future depends on their own efforts. I believe that through hard work, we can lead a good life.". After getting married, I found that love and marriage are not of the same nature at all.

In rural areas, it is common to have a child after getting married, unlike in large cities, where life is stressful, and having a baby requires planning. I followed the custom of giving birth to a boy in the first year of my marriage. The whole family treated me very well, but this kindness only lasted for less than half a year. The birth of the child brought many troubles.

Her mother likes to play mahjong, and when she has time, she sneaks into the mahjong field to entertain her neighbors. Her father-in-law can't even count on it. She spends all day wandering around without home, only to come back when it's time for dinner. Although my mother-in-law also helps me wash my clothes and take care of my children, those are very small. Fortunately, my husband is relatively diligent, and when he comes back from work, he helps me take care of my children, do housework, and cook for me. I don't have much to say. My husband still has to work and help me with things. I love him so much that I have to stop these chores on my own. When my child was one year old, I went out and found a job. With a stable income, my heart stabilized a lot.

Later, my husband ran into trouble in his work, and he lost a lot in the business he was partnering with his friends. Since then, he has been very negative and can get angry at a small matter. Every time we quarrel, the child cries loudly, and the mother-in-law comes back to intervene, making things more complicated. The relationship between my husband and me has gradually faded. "He doesn't work hard, and he has also contracted the bad habit of drinking too much. Whenever he has difficulties, he uses alcohol to relieve his worries.". "And my mother-in-law still goes her own way, only thinking about herself, and if we don't have money, we'll take care of my husband and me.".

Family conflicts also arise unconsciously. "My husband doesn't work, and my family's income has halved. In order to stop the conflict, I took out the dowry money my parents gave me to relieve the pressure. However, once I gave it away, their family all thought I was saving private money, didn't concentrate on them, and their attitude towards me was even more indifferent.". If the child doesn't help me with it, he won't discuss anything with me. "I have to work alone, take care of my children, do housework, and do tedious work. My entire person seems to be several years older than my current age.".

I am also embarrassed to mention my current life to my family, for fear that they will blame me for not listening to them. After three years of marriage, my husband's mental state is not at all good, and I don't care about anything, while I'm like a nanny, managing this family. Years ago, I unexpectedly found out that my husband was chatting with other women on WeChat, and the two people were still talking about very private topics. "I think about my persistence over the years. I was so angry that I kicked the door of my room and led the child back to my mother's house. I didn't spend the New Year at home.". "My mother-in-law has a bit of conscience, so she called me back. Her husband didn't care and told others everywhere that I hated him for being poor and didn't want to spend time with him.".

reply:

Life is like this. If a family cannot unite, it will be like a plate of scattered sand. The failure of your husband's career has plunged him into a negative state. "You feel that supporting this family is the greatest comfort to him, but he takes what you have done for granted and won't feel grateful for you.". A family should help each other and discuss solutions when encountering difficulties.

If you want to monopolize yourself, you also need to take a look at your own abilities. If you cannot resist pressure, your psychological balance will become unbalanced and differences will arise. The power of one person is certainly not as strong as that of two people. So, if you want this family to stand up again, you need to make your husband stronger and give him confidence and courage, rather than taking everything on your own and giving him time to chat with other women.

Improving the economic conditions at home can lead to a better life. "My parents-in-law are in their senior year, and their life habits have become stereotyped. If you feel uncomfortable in your heart, you can carefully communicate and analyze them to correct them. Fighting and losing temper can't solve anything.".