I ignored my parents' objection to marrying a poor boy. A few years later, we returned home in good clothes, and our parents' attitude changed dramatically

I like him, adore him and respect him. I regard him as the important person in my life, but my parents don't think so. They only pay attention to the present, don't think I can get the happiness I want when I marry him, scold me for being stupid and talking in dreams, and strongly oppose our marriage. We have been together since we were in college. Our feelings for a few years can not be separated by a word or two from our parents. I tried to persuade my parents that if they married him, they would not go back to this house. I felt it hurt my self-esteem.

My last choice was my husband. I secretly registered with him without telling my parents, followed him back to his hometown and held a simple wedding. On the wedding day, none of my mother's family came. I cried bitterly. My husband comforted me and said that one day I would return home in good clothes and do my filial piety again. Since then, we have worked hard day and night. He and his friends have started a company, constantly brainstorming, looking for business opportunities and opportunities. After several years of struggling, he has broken out of the human pattern, bought a house and a car, and plans to have a baby next.

He and I decided to go home to see my parents. In recent years, my parents and I called. They knew it was me and basically hung up or shut down. They abandoned me cruelly and ignored me. To tell the truth, I am very cold. For several years, their attitude towards me is as cold as an enemy. Some time ago, my husband and I drove in the room, and the trunk was full of gifts. When I walked to the door, my parents were shocked.

I haven't seen them grow old for several years. My tears can't stop flowing. Their attitude towards my husband was even more respectful. It was like receiving some big leader. My heart suddenly became sour. All the contradictions have been solved, and I am very happy. My parents began to ask me about my situation in recent years. They also asked me if my old company wanted someone to arrange a job for xx in my relatives' home. In this way, they were proud of their face. My husband just nodded and smiled awkwardly. My parents thought my husband was frank and praised my husband all the time.

I'm a little cold hearted. A few years ago, they didn't recognize my daughter. It was for the sake of the so-called face, but now it's so great for us. It's really cold hearted. If one day I have nothing, will they also abandon me?

Reply from the consultant:

Everyone has vanity and needs face. You gave yourself to your husband in spite of their objections. Your living standard has improved. Looking back at your parents, this is filial piety. Your parents didn't recognize you that year. You know the reason why they raised their daughter for more than 20 years and abandoned their parents for a strange man. How do they interpret their feelings? You should consider from the standpoint of your parents. Now that you are returning home in good clothes, you should not worry about what your parents are trying to do for you. When they are old, you can do your best to be filial one day. Don't daydream. When your parents leave, you will regret it too late.