Post Date December, 03 2023
I'm 43 years old. He has been married for 20 years. The husband is a person who can't save money. He doesn't know how to spend the money on his hands. He is still immature in many aspects at the age of nearly 50. Sometimes he feels more playful than children.
He owed nearly 100000 yuan in the company. I don't know where he spent it. Because he can't go out to earn money. He has been out since 2004. It was OK in the first two years. Since 2006, he no longer gave me money. He said he didn't earn it. Every time he went home on holiday, I had to give him money.
He seldom called me for so many years. Going home and living a husband and wife life can also be said to be coping, even saying that husband and wife life is not good for his business. Last year when he was ill, I found a woman beside him. I'd like to forgive him.
There is a custom in our country. When we get married, our parents buy a good house for us. When we get married, we don't buy a house. Because he is a boy, we think that the yard we live in is ours. He was not at home these years, and his father lived with his daughter. I led two children to live in this courtyard. Because the terrain was too low, I had to go out to rent a house. The courtyard was idle. Last year, he said he would sell and buy a commercial building. I also agreed. But just because I said that if there was a woman outside to let him clean out of the house, he proposed to write his father's name. I don't agree because I divorced him in anger. He took all the money for selling the house. He also told his daughter that he would buy a house to live in. Now the money for selling houses is gone. He said it was for his sister. I can say I have no money and no room. He proposed to remarry. I said I don't want to have a room. As long as he goes home and looks for someone to work, he doesn't want to go back. I heard that he still has a loan the other day. Others said that he had a boy outside who was four or five years old. Now I'm disappointed with him and I can't give up. What should I do?
Weiqing Marriage Counselor:
A man who has been married to you for 20 years has never given you satisfaction emotionally, only burdened you financially, and can't share your distress in life. He still has a child who is a few years old outside. At the end of his 20-year marriage, you can't even get "scum". Now there is no sincerity in remarriage. I don't know what you want from such a man? Not willing to lose a husband? Not willing to have the social image of the family?
