I got divorced and wanted to marry a young classmate, but he had an argument with me and went on an online marriage search

The day before yesterday, after a friend's words of reconciliation, we were reunited, but today he started writing a marriage agreement again, and he also read it to me. I feel so heartbroken!

Let me tell you about our situation: we were classmates in elementary school. In the first grade of elementary school, due to my small size, my mother was afraid of exhausting my brain and forced me to drop out of class. He was not good at studying and mischievous, and my mother was clever. The clothes our children wore in that era were made at home, and the clothes my mother made for me were beautiful, all made according to the clothes on the market, As soon as I stepped back into their class, I didn't know what was going on. The whole class suddenly quieted down in chaos. Later, I heard him say it was because they saw me, and he was also surprised by me. When I went to school, I was quiet and good at learning. The teachers praised me, and he said he liked me at that time. In order to be worthy of me, he suddenly fell in love with learning, and later became the class monitor. Our studies are either first or second, and we both have a lot of fun talking. When we sit in front of him and have some fun, he says I'm a 'fool like' because we play well and other classmates say we're a couple, which scares us so much that we never talk again. Even when we meet outside of school, we stay away from each other. Especially when he met me, he always walked around. During his five years in elementary school, he often went to play in the field in front of my house with his classmates, so I knew he had me in his heart.

Later, after graduating from elementary school, he was admitted to a key middle school, but I didn't get into it, so I left. During his junior high school days, he wrote me a letter because his signature was a girl's name. Although my mother had doubts, she asked me to take a look and confirm it was him before burning it. My mom won't let us contact him because she thinks his family is poor. In my eyes, I am also willing to encourage each other and study hard with him. I believe his parents don't agree. They say that being in touch with male and female classmates will make others look down on them. Although I didn't contact him, I didn't forget him in my heart. Occasionally, I heard from my classmates that he had left with his mother. Since then, I have not met him through my classmates.

After I didn't go to school, my parents told me about my husband's family. At that time, I wished he could show up. Under the arrangement of my parents, we got married early and had a son. When our child was four or five years old, we got angry and divorced. At that time, my classmates said he had just got married and had a son. They said if I got divorced, I could contact him. I said no, but since he got married and had a good life, I wouldn't bother him anymore. Until the first four years, during the summer vacation, my classmates told me that he had divorced and gave me his phone number, so I contacted him. He told me how sad he was after I got married, just like a walking corpse. After a few years, until he got married, he said that he had suffered a lot. his mother found a stepfather for him, but they didn't kiss him. People in the village looked down on him and said that he could not build a house in his life. He worked hard and suffered a lot of bad looks. Finally, he learned a skill to build a house in his hometown. Due to his constant work outside, his children were neglected in discipline, and his wife was bored with playing mahjong. He was also used to money for his children. Later, when the children grew older, his wife went out to work and ran away with others, resulting in a divorce. After the divorce, he bought a suite in the local city. He asked me if I would like to get divorced and spend time with him. At this time, my son also went to college, and my life has been difficult for so many years. He also said that I can work with him to do construction, and he works in the technical field. I don't know anything about architecture. He said I've been a teacher before and I'll definitely be able to do it. With his encouragement, I'll give it a try and work with him. He taught me how to propose a divorce and start a separation. At the beginning of the agreement, the other party didn't agree, and after two years of arguing, he didn't succeed, so he asked me to sue. The first lawsuit failed to be dismissed, and after six months, he asked me to file a second lawsuit. However, if it wasn't enough, he asked me to hire a lawyer. I couldn't bear to waste my money. I sued him twice and said he would pay for these expenses, but this time he said he would pay. His words strengthened his heart towards me. Therefore, in the case of the second lawsuit and divorce failing, I hired a lawyer and got divorced.

Due to having a younger daughter and a son in his twenties, who is also a lawyer, the father of the child agreed to divorce. I managed to give my daughter 100000 yuan, and the 50000 yuan borrowed from the family belonged to him. After getting divorced, he and I worked in Beijing. As we had just bought a house, he has covered the income I have earned from working with him in the past few years. We had a quarrel a few days after our divorce, so he let me go back and won't let me get divorced. What are you doing here, playing with me? The lawyer has also been hired and is about to be sentenced. He said he has been waiting for you for several years and has not yet been sentenced. Don't you want to leave? I said you bastard, why would you hire a lawyer if you don't leave? He said you can turn back now if you want to regret it. What do I mean by you? Just make a fuss, is that what you're saying about me? What did you take me for? He applied for another QQ account and asked for a marriage proposal on it, which made me so angry that I didn't know how to cry. I called his parents, called our classmates, and gave us a review gift. He almost didn't let me go that time. He packed up all my things and gave me a portion of the money. I said I would leave if I paid all my money, but he said he still hasn't collected the money. When he wants it back, he called me in and I said he should pay it off. No one owes anyone. My classmates and his parents came and scolded him, but he said he won't talk anymore.

reply:

Hello, although you are already in middle age and have your own children, your psychological age may still be stuck in your childhood childhood childhood, with a childish childlike attitude towards family life. Your junior classmate quarreled with you and went online for a marriage proposal, perhaps because he cared about you and deliberately showed you that he was just playing a child's game with you. However, although people all yearn for the past, want to revisit old dreams, and want to regain the beautiful memories of the past, they must also embrace a mature attitude and treat each other's emotions, otherwise it is easy to hurt each other.

It is a fact that you have had good feelings for each other since you were young, and your hearts are connected to each other. However, in the face of each other's unhappy marriage, you yearn for the urgent desire to hold hands and fully invest your beautiful hopes in your union. Do you really dare to guarantee that you will be happy and happy in the future? Many times, emotions are given to strange things, and the less you can get, the more you feel beautiful and precious. Once you achieve mutual fulfillment and possession, it may not necessarily be truly cherished. Therefore, you need to be prepared for this, and each other needs to calm down and face the future hand in hand. To face future interactions and companionship with a more mature mindset and ideas, only in this way can we safeguard happiness and win happiness.

In fact, from your current perspective, before you enter the red carpet of marriage, you are already full of contradictions, which is not a good omen and may indicate that your path to marriage will go through some difficulties. Moreover, I believe that when two people get together, whether it's arguing or discussing marriage, it's important to minimize the amount of money involved. This is because many times when it comes to discussing money, it hurts relationships. Don't take money too seriously, let alone use it to control and balance things. This is not a wise approach. So, you have already had a seemingly failed marriage. When rebuilding a family, you need to sort out and weigh many issues, and don't make arbitrary decisions. Emotions should be natural, not demanding, and don't use past emotional memories to demand each other's present. It's best for each other to see things from a developmental perspective, look at emotions, and see everything.