Post Date December, 03 2023
Before getting married, he loved me very much. We rarely argue, and he rarely loses his temper in front of me, which can be said to be obedient to me. After getting married and getting pregnant, when my child was four months old, my husband started working and came home late. I took care of the child for a day and I really hope someone would take over for me. He always said that after this period of work, he would definitely come home on time. After we had a conversation, he felt that for so many years, he had been circling around me and giving up a lot of socializing for me. Now that I have children, I should focus on my work. After all, I rely on him to make money and support my family, so I can't do it without paying attention!
What he said is not unreasonable. I am currently taking care of my own children and cannot work. It is difficult for him, and I cannot restrain him too tightly. At first, he even told me his whereabouts, but when he came back late, he took the initiative to give me a phone call and told me to go to bed first without waiting for him. Gradually, he became a habit, and his playfulness grew even more expansive, completely disregarding the feelings of me and the child. I never thought he would betray me. On my child's first birthday, my husband and I spent it with him, and the whole family was happy. Who would have expected him to betray me.
A month ago, he called me and said many strange things. Tell me to face life with strength no matter what happens. Perhaps one day he will leave inexplicably, but in his heart, the baby and I will always be the most important people. This made me feel frustrated and unable to find my direction. After inquiring around, I found out that he had lost money playing cards. I don't care if I lose money, just pay back. Why is there such a struggle? I told my husband that we had debts to pay together, and I thought this would move him. Who would have expected him to blame me for secretly investigating him. The more sensitive he is, the more curious I am.
That day he arranged to play cards with his friends, and I quietly followed him until I reached the chess and card room. A mahjong table with four players, surrounded by a circle of people to watch. I saw a woman sitting next to my husband. I was wearing a mask, pretending to be a card reader, and kept getting closer inside. I stared at my husband's good friend and saw his hand occasionally drifting on that woman, who was not ostracized and enjoyed it very much. I tried to restrain myself from causing trouble and took two photos as evidence to return home.
I waited for him for a long time before he came back. A proud expression on his face. I opened my phone photo and showed it to him. He lost a great temper and said that I was too scheming. He kept his mouth shut and said that I was peeping at him, unethical, and didn't admit that he was his lover. I asked him to explain to me what it meant to touch that woman, but he called it a misunderstanding and casually explained a few words to send me away. What should I do now? If marriage fails, is it still necessary to continue to salvage it?
Answer:
He doesn't acknowledge the fact that he cheated and doesn't want to end your marriage so soon. Be obedient to you before marriage, but immediately change your face after marriage. He feels that after receiving you, his efforts should also come to an end. I don't even consider how much harm it would cause to my marriage if I acted recklessly outside. If you still hold a glimmer of hope for marriage and hope to maintain a calm attitude and negotiate with him, if he consciously changes his behavior, you can go and fight for it. If he doesn't feel at all wrong, but attributes it to you. So, you don't need to continue pestering him, divorce is your best choice.
