At the university, I was the vice president of the student union and my husband was the president of the student union. At that time, there were many people chasing me, but I chose him who was excellent in character and learning but poor in family.
On campus, students said that we were talented and beautiful, but in the eyes of my parents and relatives, my husband did not deserve me at all.
When I graduated, I gave up my stable job in my hometown and went to his hometown with my husband.
I found a job as an "accountant" in a private enterprise, and my husband has been working hard for more than a year. During this period, I didn't complain a word and comforted him that "men should get married before starting a career". So I married my husband naked.
After marriage, my husband still had trouble finding a job. At that time, I was pregnant. In order to let my husband have something to do, I resigned with my stomach, borrowed more than 100000 yuan from my parents, and accepted a small supermarket. The supermarket legal person didn't dare to write his name, just afraid of his inferiority complex.
Later, our business got bigger and bigger. We bought a new house and drove a good car.
I thought I could teach my husband and children now, but my husband cheated. The other side is an unmarried woman who is more than ten years younger than me.
I have seen that woman, younger than me, prettier than me, and more capable of whining than me.
I never thought how I would fight back after my husband's cheating, because I never thought that such a "sharing weal and woe" and "starting from scratch" husband and wife would also cheat.
After discovering that my husband was cheating, I was ill for a week and cried for a week. After that, I calmly filed for divorce.
The husband refused to divorce and knelt down before me and said he was wrong.
My husband is really separated from that woman, and even better for me than before.
I thought I could forgive and tried to forgive. However, in the following days, I looked sick at all my husband's behaviors, and I lost the tolerance between husband and wife.
In fact, I don't want to, but I can't control myself.
One day when I went out, my next-door neighbor happened to go out too, because he had just moved in, so he didn't know him well.
He said to me first, "We will be neighbors in the future. Please take care of us."
His honest smile and white teeth when he spoke suddenly made me feel kind, and I wanted to chat with him for the rest of the day.
He was a bachelor, three years younger than me, and had a love affair for seven years. Because his family was poor, his girlfriend who had been in love for seven years finally kicked him out. For this reason, he hid in the city where I live and began to fight alone in a strange city.
I can't say whether I like him or sympathize with him. When I didn't have enough "trust" with him, I volunteered to spend 100000 yuan to help him start a business, and even slept with him when his husband was drunk.
A year later, he returned the money I lent her to me, and we still maintained a relationship of lovers.
Until a few days ago, he seriously said to me, "Are you willing to divorce for me?" It made me think, and I didn't immediately give him the answer. I have been thinking about it these days.
In the face of my husband who hurt me and a man who loves me deeply, how should I choose?
The love between you and your husband has consumed all your love in your life. In the current situation, the reason why you are so enthusiastic about men other than your husband is the unconscious revenge for your husband.
The reason why you can get along with the man next door happily is that on the one hand, the other hand, your husband has not found your cheating behavior. If, now that your husband knows that you are wearing a green hat to him and making trouble with you, dare you ask, do you still have leisure and elegance to have sex with the man next door?
The most important role of a woman in her life is her mother. For this reason, even if you want to divorce her husband, children will also be your biggest obstacle.
It is wrong for your husband to take the lead in cheating, but he has performed very well in the affair and apologized sincerely, which shows that his cheating was just a moment of confusion.
In the current situation, you have also achieved psychological balance through cheating. It is time to stop.
Have a heart-to-heart talk with the neighbor next door. I believe he will choose to break up peacefully.
People are not afraid of being lost, but are afraid of being stubborn.
Still use the simplest way to manage marriage and show your selflessness in love. You will find that your husband is really not so bad.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)