Post Date December, 03 2023
I am a graduate of a vocational school in Shanghai, and after graduation, I work in a property management company. I am very fond of music and aspire to become a violinist in the future. Later on, I met a girl who had been learning to do business and sell clothing from her family since childhood. She had a very practical view of life. After falling in love with me, she often advised me, "Your dream of becoming a musician is too far away. It's better to learn how to drive, and then you can help me drive and pick up goods." I was speechless. I remember on our fifth date, she was wearing a floral dress. I said, "It looks great," and she immediately said, "It would look even better with a platinum necklace. You see, Xiao Wang bought one for his girlfriend." After hearing this, I was speechless again.
At the sixth meeting, I took out all my savings and bought her a platinum necklace. She hugged me ecstatically and kept kissing. I thought to myself, as long as we truly love each other and she doesn't want to be too vain, I still really want to marry her.
I have been in a relationship for over three months and my pocket is empty. I also borrowed over 2000 yuan from my parents. I have worked hard to please her. But she still has many demands, it seems that I will never be able to meet her needs unless I become a millionaire.
Later, she didn't want to see me, so I broke up with her. One direct reason for the breakup was that I didn't have the money to hold the wedding because her family requested a large dowry. I am really powerless, so I have to choose to retreat because I don't want to owe my parents more. The girl mercilessly shook her hand and left me with endless pain. I hate losing my first love because I earned too little money. How should a poor boy face future love?
Junfeng:
I express great sympathy for your loss of first love. What your infatuation with your girlfriend evokes is: "Flirting your hand in despair". Do you think it's necessary to be so sad about such a heartless girl? You are a young boy who has just moved from school to society, with an unstable career and even no time to determine the direction of your future career. You have just had a "hasty" relationship. It can be seen that you are a very simple and eager boy for love. Please don't rush to conclude that you are poor. Your entrepreneurial journey is still long, who knows what miracles will happen?
Most men start their careers first and then start a family. Don't rush to spend money and focus on pursuing your career. Set your life goals higher and farther. Furthermore, if you calmly think about the breakup, if you had a large sum of money to marry a girl into your home, but her material demands were endless, would you be happy in the future?
A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise? If you can wake up from this incident, step out decisively, and break into your own sky in your career, I believe you will not worry about the girl who is pursuing you at that time.
