I am heartbroken about my wife's remarriage. She went on a business trip for half a month and ended up living with her ex husband. I want a divorce

I am thirty-five years old this year and have had an unfortunate marriage. After living with my ex-wife for seven years, I didn't get through the seven year itch and went my separate ways, leaving behind a four year old boy who my mother helped me take care of. The reason for our divorce is very simple. She dislikes me for not having the skills, and after a few years of marriage, she hasn't been able to live a carefree life.

I envy my little sisters all day, wear gold and silver, and travel everywhere. I don't make much money, but I haven't wronged her either. If someone else has something, I will satisfy her, but she keeps comparing and putting pressure on me, which makes my family restless. Divorce may be our best choice. After a marriage, I am very cautious about the second one. I only have one condition, that the other party must be considerate and not be subservient.

After being introduced by an acquaintance, I met a woman who was five years younger than me and gave me a good first impression. She was knowledgeable, reasonable, and virtuous, but her only drawback was that she couldn't have a baby because she had also been married and had a child. Due to poor health, she had to undergo internal sterilization surgery for fear of accidental pregnancy. I don't have any requirements for this, just having one child is enough. As long as she promises to be good to my son, I have nothing else to ask for.

After marriage, my wife treated her children and my parents very well, treating them like family members. She was also good at household chores, and after two years of marriage, she never had any trouble with me. Whenever I have money in my hand, I give it to her. Every Valentine's Day, anniversary, or birthday, I carefully prepare gifts to make her smile. A business trip completely tore apart our relationship. The newly developed project of the company requires a field visit, which takes about half a month. Before leaving, I reminded my wife to take care of her children and the elderly.

The inspection went smoothly and I returned five days early. I rushed home full of joy and had a romantic moment, buying a bouquet of flowers to surprise my wife. When I returned home, I only saw my mother and the child. When I asked my wife, my mother said she had returned to her parents' house. I took the opportunity to call my wife, and she seemed very impatient. After returning home, she didn't have the same intimacy with me as before, let alone the feeling that a farewell would be better than a new marriage. It seemed like I came back early and did something bad to her. I couldn't figure it out, so I teased my son to play. The son said that his mother and an uncle took him to the amusement park to play, sitting in a small car, and he was so happy.

Our family doesn't have a car, only her brother-in-law has a car, but the one our son is clearly calling is uncle. I didn't think much, so I casually asked my wife. Her face turned red, and she quickly admitted the fact that she had met her ex husband, who was not a liar. It's true to go to the amusement park, but I never thought anything would happen between the two of them, after all, she's my wife now.

But later, her ex husband asked her to go home on the grounds that her child was sick. After returning home, my ex husband resorted to bitter meat tactics, saying that it was not easy to take care of the child himself. The child cried every day to ask for his mother. With a soft heart, they stayed to take care of the child, and their old relationship reignited and they had a relationship. I'm confused. I don't object to seeing my biological child. Having sex with my ex husband is betraying me, isn't it? After my reaction, my face turned red with anger. She said she knew her mistake and shouldn't have seen her ex husband behind my back, let alone stayed overnight.

I couldn't hear her at all. If I hadn't come back early, how long would she have stayed with her ex husband without telling me? Now she has realized that it was her ex husband's intentional plan to sabotage her marriage and begged for my forgiveness. I am really angry that she didn't stick to her moral principles and promised to live together for a long time. Now that such a heartbreaking thing has happened, I really want to divorce and completely draw a line between her and me. What should I do?

reply:

Hello. She did such a thing, which really made people angry. After careful consideration, ultimately, the problem lies with her ex husband. Analyze his intentions. Firstly, after such a long divorce, his ex husband couldn't find a suitable one. After being single for a long time, it was inevitable that it would be difficult, so he came up with the idea of hitting your wife; Secondly, her ex husband feels that his ex wife's divorce is better than his, jealous, and resentful, creating such a situation that creates a gap between your husband and wife. Use maternal love to set a trap for your wife.

Originally, their complex relationship would not have allowed them to meet too many times, but their ex husband did not shy away from it. He also asked your wife to take your son with her and let her relax her guard. Children aged five or six would not lie, so to be frank, it can be seen that her ex husband had a strong purpose. Now that things have come out, you are angry and angry. You can understand, but life still needs to pass.

Unable to accept her behavior, resolutely divorced and let each other go; If you can't let go of the other person, you need to negotiate terms. Don't meet your ex husband in the future, accompany her to see the child, reduce the chances of meeting your ex husband, and it will reduce a bit of danger. Of course, whether to meet or not depends on your wife. Communicate well, resolve reasonably, make judgments calmly, and do not be impulsive.