Post Date April, 15 2023
Perhaps due to the influence of my upbringing environment, my choice of marriage now seems too hasty.
I was adopted by my adoptive parents as soon as I was born, and when I was in my teens, they all passed away one after another. They loved me very much, and for many years, I thought of them every day, afraid that if I didn't live well and didn't cheer them up, it would disappoint them. In the same year they passed away, I returned to my biological parents. Because of their mistakes towards me, I couldn't forgive them in my heart. Therefore, I didn't listen to their words and found a husband from another province to marry. He was not as good as me in any way, and I came to him because I wasn't confident enough. When I met a man who was too good, I felt that it wouldn't be mine.
After marrying him, I was also willing to live with him, and he was also very kind to me. The only thing was that I was too suspicious and worried every day that I would no longer be with him. His unfounded suspicion made me gasp for breath. The reason we often argued was because of this issue. Later, when I spoke to my male colleagues, I felt like I had made some mistakes and didn't interact with anyone. That's how we lived our lives for two years. In order to win his trust, I used the money left by my adoptive father to buy a house together with him, until my parents found that I was speaking incoherently when I returned home. I only realized that the problem was serious. It was he who affected me, but I was unknowingly hurt. Later, after an argument, I filed for divorce with him. He said he wouldn't give me the house if he divorced.
I no longer only care about my money, but I feel like my heart has died. These years of setbacks have made me lose confidence in life, and it doesn't matter anymore. What do you think I should do?
Ms. Chen:
Although the influence of family on people is profound, they can still regulate and improve themselves after adulthood. The shadow brought by your biological parents will eventually dissolve over time, and even balance can be achieved through forgiveness. Marriage does not have this advantage. Faced with a man who has no blood or contractual relationship with you and has a strong desire for control over you, there is no better solution than to choose to break away.
It is possible to resolve marriage issues through litigation. The court will make a fair judgment on property issues, and it will never be what he said - "If you divorce, the house will not be given to you.
I believe that the spark of hope in your heart has not yet extinguished, otherwise you would not come here to seek help. We are willing to help you regain your confidence together. Life is beautiful, please believe.
