Post Date December, 02 2023
I tried to be a good wife, but he cheated
I have been married to my husband for 4 years, and my child is just one year old. After marriage, I worked hard to become a virtuous and affectionate wife, but just as my daughter's arrival brought me more wishes for a better life, my husband cheated.
Discovering the signs began when I accidentally flipped through my husband's text message. At that time, I didn't really intend to "check", just wanted to find a friend's phone number from his phone. Before that, I had always respected his personal privacy.
Perhaps it was because of my "trust" that he didn't do the deletion work in advance. The naked text messages on them, such as "I miss you so much" and "I really want to sleep with you", surprised me! From that moment on, I felt that all the happiness of the past four years had collapsed in an instant!
At first, he firmly refused to tell the truth, constantly evading and saying it was a "colleague prank". Later on, perhaps it was because I didn't show any signs of concession, or perhaps because I was too tired and tired, he only gradually explained it thoroughly.
Originally, Xiao San was my husband's female supervisor, and she is currently a second married woman. She has a husband and a son, and most importantly, she is nearly ten years older than my husband! I have seen that woman, not very beautiful. She is a very powerful character, very shrewd and aloof. When she first joined the company, her husband always said that working under her was very tormented! Who would have thought that after two years, they would have developed into such a relationship!
My husband said that being with her is purely for "work needs". In his current situation, if he wants to make a breakthrough in his position, this woman is a shortcut. He doesn't want a divorce, he wants me to understand him, tolerate this matter, and when he is promoted to supervisor, he will naturally break up with her!
I immediately thought of three words: hidden rules.
Unexpectedly, I used to think that only women would engage in hidden rules with male superiors. However, nowadays, male subordinates also engage in hidden rules with female superiors! This man, let me down and despair!
As the cold war between us intensified, my husband moved out. Just a few days before moving out, he would take the initiative to call and care about me, but now there are no more phone calls or text messages. Later on, I heard that he had already rented a house with his female boss!
I have talked to him, but his opinion remains the same: if I give him time, he is unwilling to take this step but has not received anything! I don't want such a humiliating marriage, but should my daughter lose her father because she is too young? Besides, is it possible for a divorced woman to meet a better man again? Ah, dilemma, dilemma
Expert response:
There is an interesting discovery: many women who can tolerate their husband's extramarital affair, her reason is "he said he was only with that woman for money, he said he loved me, as long as he got what he wanted from that woman, he would come back to me.
From an outsider's perspective, the utilitarian nature of a man who can say these words is truly chilling. However, as a wife, one can often be persuaded by such reasons. Although she had encountered an unproductive man with a soft meal, she was able to hold back because compared to spiritual betrayal, women are more likely to forgive men's physical betrayal.
A man has a material purpose to have a relationship with another woman. As a wife, although he hates it, he also has a sense of schadenfreude for that "mistress". She thinks, "My husband doesn't love you and wants to sleep with you, this bad woman deserves it!" Thinking about this is enough to relieve her anger!
It can be said that in a woman's heart, "love" is always more important than "sex". When a marriage encounters a mistress or everything is on the brink of despair, hearing a man say, 'I'm with her for money...' is like a woman's last forgiveness letter, leaving her some room to dream.
This is really a common mentality among women: "It doesn't matter if a man's character is good or not, the key is that he is good enough to me!" He has a purpose for other women, but only has love for her, which is a story that women all like.
Returning to today's story, if he decisively said to you today, "I don't love you anymore, let's end it." Perhaps you would suffer decisively, but you wouldn't hesitate to suffer helplessly. Perhaps the clear answer would break your heart, at least after the heartbreak, you can look forward to starting again.
However, the clever and cunning man doesn't say that. He wants to say, 'Being with her is only for profit'. In one sentence, it puts you on a hot pot, causing you to feel restless and uncomfortable, with both despair and anticipation.
A bad man always has a way to hold a woman's heart. And for such a man, the means of torturing others are truly top-notch!
Although I believe your husband's words very much, the female boss may be mature and charming, and may have a variety of romantic relationships, when male subordinates climb onto her bed, they mostly consider the issue of interests. But ah, can you feel at ease with such a utilitarian man sleeping beside you? Who could have foreseen how many times he would betray me in this lifetime?
For a man without a "heart", all madness is of no use. From now on, it's time to think about how to plan your life with your children after a divorce?
Don't say you don't have the confidence to find a better man than him, meeting such a man is already the worst fate for a woman! Believe me, such a bad man won't keep you up even if he comes back!
