Although marriage is a matter for both spouses, it requires the joint efforts of both parties to achieve marital happiness. But in reality, women play a crucial role in maintaining marital relationships. It is not an exaggeration to say that marriage is' a woman who becomes a woman, a woman who loses'. Women's seemingly unintentional actions are truly the killers who ruin their marriages. How exactly do women ruin a happy marriage? Women, take a look quickly to take some preventive measures.
Always likes to make decisions
Some women say, 'He's in charge of big things at home, I'm in charge of small things, but we don't have big things at home.'. When saying this, it is usually very happy, but in marriage, one party always makes the decision and the other party has no say, and such a marriage will not be happy for a long time. Especially if women are too dominant, men are more likely to feel hopeless about marriage. It is recommended to give men some say and it is best to take turns making decisions about family matters.
Excessive expectations for marriage
Women are all perfectionism, especially when facing marriage, they always want to be better and better. If expectations of marriage are too high, it is more likely to feel disappointed in marriage. People with high expectations in marriage ("we will have a perfect sexual life") are more likely to feel disappointed in their first year of marriage than those with more realistic expectations ("we will work together to have a good and positive sexual life"). Suggestion: There is no perfect marriage, and having overly optimistic specific expectations usually ends in disappointment. However, one cannot give up positive and optimistic expectations in marriage, only to control them.
Excessive demands on husband
Women always demand too much from their husbands, not only that they be gentlemen, elegant, and know how to take care of girls sincerely, but also that they disdain other women. Both the husband should have a masculine demeanor and be obedient to his own words. Many women have unrealistic thoughts about men, which leads to high expectations and greater disappointment. In the end, not only women were disappointed, but men were also very disappointed. Suggestion: Men should not always be so polite. Occasional arguments and conflicts do not mean that the husband is not like a real man, nor does it mean that he no longer loves you.
Demanding too much of oneself
Women who demand too much from their husbands can affect their marital relationships. However, demanding too much from oneself can also be detrimental to relationships. Some women demand too much of themselves and want to maintain a perfect image in their husbands' minds, without any flaws. Little did they know that a perfect marriage simply doesn't exist, and being too perfect can actually make the marriage fragile. Suggestion: Pursuing to perform better often brings negative feelings such as competition, confusion, and fear, while pursuing tolerant goals can lead to positive feelings such as cooperation and love.
Some women may say, 'I have no desires or desires, so I won't pose a threat to marriage.'. wrong! Some women have no desires or desires, like a woman who does not indulge in worldly pleasures. Living with such people, life will be like a stagnant pool, calm and without waves, which can easily make men feel bored. There is a saying that 'curiosity kills cats', but curiosity can bring miracles to marriage. Researchers believe that people with curiosity are more willing to view difficult situations as challenges rather than threats. And they are better at communication, more flexible, and open to new solutions. Suggestion: If a consistently happy marriage encounters trouble, it is important to think curiously about whether it provides a good opportunity for conflicts between couples to find different solutions to the problem.
Overly concerned about the intimate relationship between husband and wife
Between husband and wife, it is already the closest relationship that can be achieved between people. But some women still overly care about whether the couple is close enough. For example, when hiking, always asking 'are we almost there?' can make the destination feel increasingly distant. Similarly, if we constantly ask ourselves' are we close enough 'in a marital relationship, it can make it impossible for a close relationship between husband and wife. Suggestion: Couples only need to have more common activities and experiences, so that a sense of closeness naturally emerges and cannot be forced.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)