Post Date December, 03 2023
What is marriage? Marriage should be the union of two people who love each other with a profound and progressive love, which is the greatest happiness in life, because there are two hearts loyal to each other, and there is the pursuit and creation of life and beauty. In their lifelong pursuit and creation, they have fused with each other, yearned for each other, improved each other, and also improved themselves. However, since the 1960s, sexual liberation, freedom, and cultural rebellion among young people have emerged from European and American countries, causing turmoil and breakdown in traditional family marriages. So how can we save a marriage?
Marriage always has a crossroads, and when problems arise in marriage, we should actively face them, search for them, and solve them. Two people getting married is a great fate, and when they are not fully aware of whether their marriage cannot be saved, they should deeply examine themselves and whether they have fully understood the positive significance that this fate brings to them. In daily life, couples need to constantly communicate and have a clear understanding of their beliefs, values, and rules. After determining the reasons and reasons for separation and cooperation, decisions can be made. After a divorce, both spouses can have a happy life, but for children, separation and divorce inevitably bring harm, and parents should think twice. A family may break up with someone due to their adherence to certain beliefs, values, and rules. If they divorce and remarry, the same situation may occur again in the future. Therefore, if there are problems in marriage, it is necessary to first find their own reasons and change themselves to adapt to the other party, in order to save the marriage that is about to break down.
A couple may argue if they believe that their beliefs, values, and rules are more important than their relationship. Once there are too many arguments and disagreements, when emotional support from the other party is needed but cannot be obtained, the marriage will light up with a red light, followed by separation or even divorce. Marriage is a matter for two people, and in everything that occurs in marriage, both have a responsibility. They should not have done it or should have done it but did not, and bear the same responsibility. For parents whose marriage can no longer be saved, accept the life of their own decisions and seek positive meaning from everything to make their future life more successful and happy.
A family, due to various reasons, cannot continue. It is recommended to divorce decisively, but the parent-child relationship cannot be changed due to the divorce of the couple. In the depths of a child's heart, parents are absolutely irreplaceable and perfectly harmless. The triangular relationship between father, mother, and son is immutable and inviolable in a child's heart. Parents with marital problems must understand this and act accordingly. Simply put, a change in the relationship between husband and wife does not necessarily mean a change in the relationship between father, mother, and son. They are completely different things.
When dealing with children after a divorce, parents should maintain consistency and harmony in their roles. They should tell their children that even if their parents have a strained relationship, they will always love and take care of them. When dealing with children, we should not conceal facts or deceive them. We should use a frank attitude to discuss problems with children, try to be honest with them, maintain their trust in ourselves, and both parties should care about and participate in their children's lives. We should not accuse each other in front of the children, teach them to hide or intentionally spread rumors from each other. Matters between two adults should only be resolved by two adults. If one parent remarries, the child should not be forced to call their new partner "father" or "mother".
A marriage that is about to break up has internal wounds and is accumulated over time. It also takes time to solve it. Firstly, both parties must have the sincerity to solve it, and cannot blame or blame the other party. We believe that calm communication will make the problem clear and there is a direction for solution. Couples are people who love each other, and there is nothing that cannot be solved.
