Post Date December, 03 2023
More than half a year ago, a young man studying in the United States, A Nan, wrote about the troubles he was experiencing
The young man returned home a year ago and married his girlfriend of many years. Due to visa difficulties, his wife can only temporarily stay in China, and he returns to the United States alone to continue his studies.
As we have seen in many stories, the little left behind wife has had extramarital sex because of loneliness.
After a long internal conflict, the wife chose to confess.
They spoke about it in a long online conversation that lasted all night, and the process of confessing was quite painful.
The husband who learned the truth was suddenly thunderstruck and lost his composure. He doesn't know what to do. If he doesn't love his wife, things are easy to handle, and it's over now. If he can tolerate his wife's mistakes, things will be easy to handle. The wife has already repented and will live well in the future. However, young people both deeply love their wives, do not want to lose their families, and cannot accept what has happened. After that, he also tried to use many modern theories and statements to alleviate the impact, just like fishing for a lifeline, but the stone stuck in his heart just couldn't be taken away.
He wrote to seek relief
He said, "Teacher Ke, you must help me. It's not too much to describe my current situation as" living like a year ".".
How to reply to a letter once made me hesitate. He not only understood the truth of life, but also said a lot in the letter. Moreover, such harm cannot be comforted with a few words.
To be honest, what has particularly attracted my attention throughout the matter is the honesty of my wife, whose practices are not common in today's "fashion". In the event that the consequences might be quite serious, she still chose to tell the truth to the other party. She said, "Deception is unfair to you," and "I would rather lose your love and marriage for this than regret it.". This gives me respect. The story I usually understand is that the unfaithful partner conceals the extramarital affair as much as possible, and when couples get together, everything that once happened is obliterated by time.
A Nan told me that someone had suggested this idea to his wife before, but she was still unwilling to do so after repeated consideration. Here, I don't want to say that she is pure, but rather that she is brave. She introspected that the reason for her cheating was only because of the concern of a third party and that she was too weak at the time. However, she soon woke up and knew that it was not love, but a longing for warmth. After the incident, she instead cherished each other's love even more, and completely broke up with each other.
While telling the truth, the wife also said that even if she was condemned by her husband for this lifetime and would always bear the cross of conscience, she would be willing, because she would be responsible for her own wrong behavior.
She must have struggled with it
There is a lot of discussion about love and marriage in society, which can be said to be a permanent topic for mankind. There is no doubt that love is a necessary condition for marriage, and a marriage without love is unfortunate. But love alone is not enough.
I think, two people walk through life hand in hand, in addition to love, but also understanding tolerance, there must be responsibilities and obligations.
When he decides to marry her, he not only loves his (her) strengths and her beauty, but also needs to understand his (her) weaknesses, accommodate his (her) weaknesses, not only share his (her) possible future successes, but also be prepared to bear the twists and turns and even suffering caused by his (her) mistakes. Usually, couples are more likely to accept the faults of the other party if they are directed against a third party, but if they are directed against themselves, they tend to become intolerant.
