Post Date December, 03 2023
A reader wrote to me and told me that after reading my book, I became happy instantly. Some readers wrote to complain about their unhappiness and hoped that I could help her. In fact, whether you are happy or not is really your own business. A book can make you very happy, while a word from others may make you unhappy. In this way, you will give others the right to be happy or not.
Life is your own life. You must realize this and take responsibility for your life and happiness.
Eckhart Toler, author of "The Power of the Present", said that we should distinguish the difference between life and life-situation. Life should always be beautiful, but there are some situations in life that will make us disappointed and painful.
Why is life beautiful? Because it exists as it is and as it is, it will not change because of our criticism and judgment.
If you want to be happy, the first step is to live in harmony with your life and not resist it. Life is like the sea, and life situation is like the waves of the sea. Maybe we don't like too big waves, but the sea is always there and always quiet.
We seem to be helpless and victims of life situations, but we do not realize that the victims have no humility. They are not willing to bear the troubles, pain, humiliation and unbearable caused by life and various situations in life, and cannot accept the arrangement of life with a soft heart.
So we are unhappy. We think that by using unhappiness as a tool of resistance, we can change the life situation we face. As a result, the life situation has not changed, but is worse, because we focus on the things that make us unhappy, and constantly enlarge and enhance their influence.
You want to be happy? It's simple. First, bow to your life and life situation and accept them sincerely. Then, you can pray for higher wisdom to give you the power to change your life situation. So I said, we often use our power in the wrong place!
We should not resist life and life situations, nor sit there complaining, but should surrender to them first, and then take some positive actions to change the life situations we don't like. Please turn resistance and complaint into submission and action!
We are bored with people, things and things outside because we are bored with ourselves and lose our connection with our true self. An open and humble heart can make us suffer less.
Perhaps you will ask: How can I do not resist, or even surrender to it? Here, I want to teach you some of the simplest methods.
Next time you feel that the people, things and things around you are boring or unhappy, close your eyes and go back to your heart and ask yourself: Can I welcome it? The answer must obviously be: No, how can I welcome it?
It doesn't matter, because when you can ask yourself this way, it means that you have distanced yourself from the life situation or negative emotions that make you hate, and won't be led by them, or unconsciously identify with them, immerse yourself in the problem, and get into the corner.
Next, please ask yourself: Can I allow it to exist?
When you ask yourself this question, you know that it already exists whether you allow it or not.
However, even if you reluctantly and wrongly answer: OK! You will also feel that there is a small power rising from the bottom of your heart, because you allow a thing you don't like to exist. This is the first step of surrender.
Please try to go back to your heart and observe yourself and be with yourself. You may not be used to it at the beginning, because you are very tired of yourself or your life situation, and there is no time to escape!
However, when you gradually take your eyes away from the outside world, you will find that the internal power is slowly accumulating and growing, and the relationship with yourself is gradually improving.
Finally, I sincerely hope that you can have a belief, not necessarily a religious belief, but must have a humility enough to believe that there is a supreme power or wisdom in the world and the universe, and then seek its help and pour out all your unhappiness and boredom to it.
When you establish a communication channel with it, you will find a shortcut to your true self.
Never give up! Turn the energy you want to give up into positive energy! In fact, they are of the same nature, but you haven't seen that you have other choices before.
For dear you
We must take full responsibility for the people, things and things that enter our lives, learn to accept our unhappiness, accept the imperfections of life, willingly learn the lessons of submission, and find a shortcut to pursue a better life. The best way is to start from now on.
