Now women are very independent. Even after marriage, they don't want to be supported by men, and they want to handle the relationship between work and life well. How can we better measure it? In fact, after marriage, women can generally handle these relationships well if they do the following 10 points.
(1) Economic basis determines superstructure
Appreciation is not to increase "money", but it cannot be separated from money. Women's independence and freedom first come from the economy. When a man feels that he is "raising" you, how he can control you to get rid of you is just right. When a woman has the ability to support herself, even if the future is uncertain, she will not be afraid because she has the capital and power to face the changes calmly.
The following items all depend on the economic basis. If you want to do beauty, you can afford to buy clothes, you can afford to love to cultivate hobbies, you can afford to read books, you can afford to go to places you want to go, and you can afford to make friends... Think about it, all of this cannot be separated from economic independence, and it is not enough to have only one heart to pursue.
(2) Own your own work career and do not deviate from the society
Work is the source of economy, but not just for making money. Women's contributions to the family often have no "sense of achievement", because their husbands often take your contributions for granted, and even do not cherish and appreciate them. However, women can be fully affirmed in their work, and more confident.
Career can also keep women and society on track. The most frightening thing is that the family has become a besieged city, and he has become a frog at the bottom of the well. He has no chance to broaden his horizons. If a woman regards her husband and children as her whole "career", the probability of success in her career is very low.
(3) Women should look for themselves as well as for themselves
Depreciation begins with age and appearance. No way. It's human nature to judge people by their appearance. However, there are no ugly women, only lazy women. It is only their choice to grow old in marriage. Many women pay attention to their dress and appearance before marriage, but they become sloppy after marriage.
We can't change the vicissitudes of time, but we have the right to make ourselves fresh and clean, and have the right to dress appropriately. You should learn to take care of your skin. You should paste a facial mask on your busy days to make yourself look energetic. Clothes are not necessarily famous brands or expensive, but they are suitable for your skin color, shape and temperament. Beautiful women are pleasing to the eyes, and men will also be proud of having a beautiful wife with good taste.
(4) Be kind to others, but not mean to yourself
Some divorced women often regret: "I used to be too stupid to eat or wear, and spent hundreds of dollars to buy clothes for him. I never wore more than 100 clothes, and I planned the future for my family carefully, but I didn't leave a way for myself..."
Women are good to their husbands and children, of course, but it doesn't mean that they must sacrifice themselves. You know, no one in the world loves you more than you. If you are not good to yourself, who will be good to you? Marriage is not a reason to neglect yourself, and marriage is not the culprit that makes a woman with a yellow face.
(5) Develop the habit of reading and absorb knowledge and nutrition
Women who like to read books are generally more connotative people, and tend to have a good attitude. Reading is not all professional scientific and technical knowledge, but more "knowledge" of life. There is a lot of wisdom in a good book. Women should be good at acquiring wisdom from the book, understanding philosophy, and improving their own quality through other people's stories and experiences. Another advantage of reading is to learn to be quiet, to think, and to taste happiness. When reading becomes a habit, women will face the pain in life with a peaceful attitude.
(6) Keep learning enthusiasm all your life
In the same way as the previous article, learning does not necessarily mean learning professional science and technology, but all components of life need to be learned. In modern society, the "freshness period" is shorter and shorter, so is knowledge and love. If you don't want to be overwhelmed by the tide of competition (competition with peers, competition with a third party), and you don't want to be surrounded by crises (economic crisis, career crisis, marriage crisis, etc.), then you must be diligent in learning and good at learning, so that you can become a worthy self-value-added woman, who will live, learn, live and learn.
(7) He has his world, you have your circle
The most dangerous behavior of a woman is that once she meets the man she loves, she becomes a weak and boneless vine without pulse and tightly wraps around the man. This kind of love is terrible. It not only loses itself, devalues love, but also suffocates men. There is only one man left in your life. If you are a man, are you afraid? Therefore, women should not be fragile vases or embellishments of men. They should be self-respect and self-reliant, independent and beautiful. Just imagine that when the value of a woman is firmly bound around a man, there is only the possibility of continuous shrinking, and there is no room for improvement.
(8) Stay away from "mother-in-law"
The word "mother-in-law" comes from the characteristics of women. Always repeat similar words in front of men, which just shows that your mind is simple and boring. Don't complain about trivial things all day long. God is really fair. Don't think you are the most painful, aggrieved, and tired person in the world. Everyone will encounter troubles. There are nine out of ten unhappy things. But intelligent women know how to solve difficulties skillfully, smile and wait for the sun, know how to seek satisfaction in simple and light, find happiness, and harvest happiness.
(9) Cultivate hobbies and know how to make life interesting
Fun is a must for a woman. When you find that you only know how to watch soap operas every day, you should look in the mirror, because this image is doomed to be dull and even offensive in the eyes of men. Cultivate some hobbies, such as reading, music, calligraphy, painting, dancing, yoga, recitation, photography, whatever you like. Collect talents, like old wine, the more fragrant it is, the more fragrant it is, and the farther it is. Therefore, life becomes vivid and full.
(10) Have intimate friends
Men are not short of "pig friends and dog friends" at any time. They can always chat and drink freely. But women are often "alone" after marriage. Previously, when they were single, they were "close friends". Because they were busy with their families and their husbands and children, they seldom contacted each other and became increasingly estranged. Therefore, women are becoming more and more isolated and lonely. Once they are sad and lost, no one can talk, no one can encourage and comfort them.