Post Date April, 15 2023
First of all, we must accept this fact.
The most painful thing in life is not being reconciled to the status quo. Facing a woman who has been having an affair for ten years, we need to learn to face this fact. If we keep struggling: Why did she have an affair for so long? What did she think? Why did she betray her marriage? How can she turn around as a prodigal son? These problems will only cause us more and more pain, and will not benefit us at all. "If she can have an affair for ten years, she must have her reasons, even her beliefs, otherwise she wouldn't have persisted for so long.". So her state of affairs is not something we can pry into in a few words. For example, a person who has been drinking alcohol for ten years has finally completely destroyed his body. His poor physical condition cannot be adjusted in three or two days.
Secondly, think clearly about the question of whether to stay or not.
"Ten years, it's really a long time for her to have an affair, but if you can tolerate her for ten years, it's also very powerful.". Perhaps you retort that you discovered that she had an affair for less than ten years, and that everything was already late when you discovered it, which also indicates that your non perceptual power is quite strong. If you were strict with her, you would have left her long ago and wouldn't wait for her to have an affair for ten years. So when it comes to whether to stay or not, men have to make their own decisions, and don't expect her to make significant changes. There may be, but the possibility is very small, or even if there is a change, the change will be very small. If you feel that you have had enough of this decade, you can decisively choose to end this relationship. If you think ten years have passed and it's no big deal, it's okay to choose two people to continue living like this. In general, the question of whether to stay or not depends on your true feelings and values.
Once again, no matter what happens, remember to love yourself well.
We are all adults and need to learn to take responsibility for our own lives. In addition to our family, we also have careers, friends, interests, and so on. In addition to marital relationships, there are also parent-child relationships in the family. So the affair of a woman having an affair won't affect all of our lives. We can still manage our other sectors well. For example, do what you like, love yourself well, and respect yourself.
A woman has been having an affair for ten years, and when we face her, we need to learn to love ourselves well and make choices that are beneficial to us.
