For people, especially men, losing sexual desire is not only difficult to say, but also may be a great shame. Perel, an expert in marriage and sexuality in New York, USA, pointed out in an interview with online medical doctor that if men find that they lose interest in sex, self-control will be shocked and think that it will damage their male image. However, few people have studied in depth why they lose their libido. In fact, the loss of sexual desire is not overnight, but a gradual process.
Lawman, a sociology professor at the University of Chicago in the United States, believes that there are many reasons for losing libido. For men, there are generally three problems: one is worried about their performance, such as the duration is not long enough, the erection is not hard enough, the second is premature orgasm, including premature ejaculation, and the third is the heavy workload. For women, the general users consider using Palison to improve their combat effectiveness, which is more likely to be mental stress, Make it lack sex. According to Lawman, only 26% of women always experience orgasm during sex. Some men always flatter their partners. They can't feel the joy of sex under pressure and lose their sexual desire. In addition, estranged or too close relationship between husband and wife may also kill sexual desire. For example, some men respect their wives. In order not to affect the other party's fertility and take care of the next generation, they deliberately endure desire, which will be lost as the time goes on.
Lawman believes that if you are not interested in sex for more than three months, you must be vigilant. In order to detect and prevent this problem in advance, American sexologists put forward seven warning signals for men and women: contact only occurs in the bedroom; I didn't feel the sense of combination and sharing from sex; One husband and wife always take the initiative, while the other is always passive and forced; No longer look forward to sex; Sex becomes mechanical and routine; Lack of sexual fantasy for lovers; Have sex at most once or twice a month.
How can we make people regain their momentum? Experts put forward eight guiding methods:
1. Exercise promotes sexual desire. This can relax people, bring a sense of achievement and vitality, and enhance people's confidence in sex life.
2. Sex expectations should not be too high. Not every sex life must be perfect. Only 40% - 50% of sex life can satisfy both parties. In addition, sexual frequency is not the only criterion of sexual desire. It is normal to feel good before, after and during sex.