Sexual Health
How to deal with heterosexual harassment and what preventive measures should be taken to refuse harassment
How to deal with heterosexual harassment? This issue has caused countless beautiful women a headache and they are afraid that they will not be able to deal with the annoying opposite sex. Below, the editor will give you a suggestion on "How to deal with heterosexual harassment".
Generally speaking, women are more susceptible to harassment from the opposite sex than men, which is determined by the differences in physiological conditions, psychological characteristics, and social status between men and women. How should we respond to sexual harassment?
1. The occurrence and manifestations of heterosexual harassment
A. Who are more susceptible to heterosexual harassment
A person with beautiful appearance and rich gender charm. A person with a weak and submissive personality, poor independence, and a tendency to accept adversity. People with frivolous behavior and lack of proper behavior, especially women, who have previously had bad behavior in this area. A person in a position of being dominated and manipulated by the opposite sex. People who often deal with the opposite sex, especially those who often deal with the opposite sex with an unethical style. Married individuals who have an unhappy married life, unmarried individuals who have failed to choose a spouse or have failed in a romantic relationship, are easily harassed by the opposite sex when their personal privacy is leaked and becomes a public secret.
B. Who are more likely to harass the opposite sex
People with strong aggression, dominance, and possessiveness. A person who possesses certain social resources such as power, wealth, and status. People who experience unhappiness in their married life and frequent failures in choosing a spouse, resulting in long-term dissatisfaction with their love and sexual desires. A person with promiscuous thoughts and corrupt morals. Individuals with certain sexual and psychological disorders.
C. The main manifestations of heterosexual harassment
Common forms and contents of heterosexual harassment vary depending on the target audience.
Accidental harassment by strangers. This type of harassment is less common and less severe, often occurring in shops, parks, trains, or other public places. For example, some young women accidentally encounter a stranger in a public place, and he proactively greets the woman, introduces himself, talks enthusiastically, even requests to make friends, and even confesses what he can do for the woman, how many good things it will be to make friends with him, and so on.
Harassment by colleagues or acquaintances. This situation is relatively common and difficult to handle. It often manifests as colleagues in the same unit or acquaintances in multiple interactions who are persistently entangled.
Harassment by superiors or leaders. This situation is also quite common and difficult to get rid of, which makes the parties very upset. Some superiors or leaders take various social resources (such as power) in their hands and proactively take care of the harassment targets they choose, such as being very concerned about the work and life of the opposite sex, providing special care everywhere, arranging them to work in relaxed, comfortable, and affordable positions, and promising promotion, reuse, and material rewards to help solve some difficulties in life. These influential and prestigious superiors or leaders generally do not appear too blatant, and in most cases, they adopt the method of giving small favors to gradually influence and harass the target, in order to achieve the goal of manipulating and controlling the other party., Only when the above methods are ineffective, will they reveal their true colors and use their power resources to threaten and intimidate the other party, forcing them to comply.
2. How to exclude harassment from the opposite sex
When excluding heterosexual harassment, it is necessary to be reasonable, advantageous, and dignified, distinguishing between different situations, adopting a combination of hardness and hardness, and protecting oneself while also taking responsibility for others.
You must adopt a "cold treatment" attitude towards the excessive care and care given to individuals suspected of heterosexual harassment, showing indifference, disinterest, or even boredom towards their words and actions. This handling is very important, as it will give the other party a hint psychologically, making them feel bored and somewhat restrained. At the same time, you can also intentionally say things to your spouse (or lover) that are good, have a deep relationship, have a happy family life, and are very satisfied with yourself, making them feel disappointed and feel that your intentions are whimsical. This path is not feasible, and you should die of this heart. You can also simply introduce them to your spouse or lover, and when they see that you are indeed a loving couple or passionate lover, they may also take the initiative to stop harassing you. On the contrary, if you show favoritism towards them, are willing to accept their care and care for you, and even hold a warm attitude towards their intentional harassment, then this person will feel that there is an opportunity to take advantage of it, become more entangled, step by step press, and then move on, which may lead to uncontrollable situations.
If you have a serious attitude and have taken the right approach, and the person harassing you not only retreats without realizing the difficulties, but also intensifies their harassment towards you, then you need to think of further solutions. You can honestly explain to them that it is inappropriate or even unethical for them to do so. We hope that they will respect themselves and have no ulterior motives. And you can tell him/her that you can only have a general heterosexual relationship with each other. When necessary, you should truthfully tell your spouse or lover about these situations in order to seek understanding and help. This can not only protect you, but also enhance the relationship between the couple or lover, while eliminating unnecessary misunderstandings and suspicions. Of course, for those who are willful, harassing, and intimidating, we must not show mercy. We should not hesitate to report to our immediate superiors or superiors, in order to educate and warn the harassers. If conditions permit, it is best for one party to transfer their work unit (if both parties are in the same work unit) after such events occur. This can not only avoid the embarrassment of meeting each other every day, but also help both parties quickly restore psychological balance and eliminate the influence around them.
To rule out heterosexual harassment, it is important to demonstrate confidence and composure, behave appropriately, generously, and with good manners, and not be overly provocative. This is particularly important for young and beautiful women. If you are upright, you will not dare to make any inappropriate statements or even have any unrealistic thoughts in front of you, whether you encounter strangers, regular colleagues or acquaintances, superiors or leaders. Once there is harassment from the opposite sex or gossip about oneself, in addition to taking the measures mentioned earlier, the parties involved should also seek the reasons from themselves, especially from the depths of their hearts. Because as long as you have a little flash in your mind, it is likely to be expressed in words, behaviors or facial expressions. Only those who want to harass you can find opportunities and dare to act boldly.
How to deal with sexual harassment for smart women? Three words to deal with it!
You are ruthless towards me, no wonder I have no righteousness. It can be said that any method you use to fight back against such a bad man is not excessive.
From a preventive perspective, for male superiors with this tendency, prevention should be taken first. Try to avoid being alone with him, and if you want to have a separate appointment, try to choose a place with a camera. If you are forced to enter his office alone, you must prepare a recording device or use your phone. If you want to intimidate him, you might as well keep your phone in a talking state and enter his office. If something happens, you can let the voice on your phone roar loudly and warn him. For ordinary lewd men, it can form a deterrent force.
Secondly, it is necessary to collect evidence. Recording pens, pinhole cameras, and more can be used, as well as mobile phones. If necessary, they can be used in conjunction with other female colleagues who have encountered similar situations. Give him a big picture.
After the evidence is collected, there are two ways: one is to resort to law, and the other is to hand it over to the media. The average male boss, no matter how powerful he is, cannot buy all the media. Moreover, in the era of self media development, there are still many conscientious big Vs on Weibo. Many people are willing to lend a hand to help with this kind of matter (I am always willing to help, if there is anything you can @ my Weibo). Even if your male boss has a big background, he can't withstand the era of ubiquitous self media. Moreover, he can't make all the media shut up.
However, at this time, you must have fighting spirit and have the intention of killing fish and getting caught.
Once again, for some extremely vicious and obscene men, you really need to break down and fight them to the end. You can send recorded photos or something to his wife. Of course, some men are bold in front of their wives, and they are not afraid of their wives knowing. So this man always has children, parents, relatives and friends, send them one by one. Of course, you can also send it to his child's teacher or the parents of his classmates.
Of course, you can also send these "precious" materials to the company's customers or colleagues, even if you can't find out his family, sending them to these people is completely acceptable. Okay, if you really can't find out any clues, then you can print it into a flyer and send it out on the street, right? Online posting assembly, right?
Of course, female friends should prepare some self-protection tools, such as anti wolf spray. As long as you spray a lewd man in the company, no public opinion will laugh at your nervousness.
Finally, I know that many women still cannot bear this job, and not every woman in the workplace has the courage to change jobs. So, you might as well follow what I just said, and then gently hint or express it to him, reminding him not to keep repeating it, otherwise I will have to make a big move.
Finally, I want to tell all my girlfriends that barefoot people are not afraid of wearing shoes. No matter how much trouble a subordinate may have with their superiors due to sexual harassment, it is always him who ultimately suffers a lot. If you don't make trouble, it's only you who suffer.
Women in the workplace must cultivate into men and become strong!
Firstly, sexual harassment in the workplace generally comes from dirty male superiors, or those who are more influential in the same position. It is impossible for subordinates to sexually harass female superiors unless they are looking for opportunities for sexual harassment.
For sexual harassment from superiors, most women dare not speak up and choose to accept, avoid, or express their dissatisfaction in a tactful manner. In fact, this is very wrong. Women's weak attitude of avoiding and appeasing others will only make those wretched men more arrogant. You should know that sexual harassment is not just about you, but about the lewd men.
So, be strong, shout out, be bold, and express your dissatisfaction sternly. There was once a news that a young girl in her twenties almost beat her harasser to death. She had no choice but to leave and find a new way out. However, for the obscene man, she was beaten and lost in front of the employees, which affected the company's image in front of the customers, and there must also be significant economic losses. So, who is more at a loss compared to others?