Post Date December, 03 2023
The reason for a man's "convulsion" is nothing more than worrying about his inability, illness, or having experienced unpleasant experiences, which often unconsciously reappears in his mind and interferes with his mood. At this point, you must appropriately show concern, especially patiently accompany him through this awkward period. Therefore, it is recommended that you first use other intimate methods such as non sexual intercourse to arouse his confidence and fully let him feel the joy of your intimate relationship with each other,
Stress 1: The pressure to doubt your sexual abilities and worry about your dissatisfaction
According to a survey, Taiwanese men generally believe that it takes a long time to have an erection to satisfy a woman, and they also believe that it is necessary for a woman to have a strong reaction to show that he is "very capable and strong." Therefore, they subconsciously fear that the other person will have an affair due to their dissatisfaction with their desires, resulting in a softening of their muscles and no amount of stimulation.
Relief methods:
If you fail many times, you don't have to rush to help him recover. Both sides should take a break first to give him a chance to breathe; You can use other ways to express intimacy, let him know that you are truly satisfied with your relationship, and rebuild his confidence.
Pressure 2: The pressure to be careful not to disappoint your good intentions
When you worry about his pressure, you may say, "It's okay, anyway, sex is not the most important thing, but the most important thing is the fit of the soul..." or say, "It doesn't matter if you don't do it once, come back next time..." But you must not know that your kind comfort is also his biggest source of pressure.
Relief methods:
If your partner has had unsuccessful sexual experiences, your best encouragement is not to comfort or encourage them with words, and don't try to help them in more stimulating ways the next time they have sex. "Because men who have failed in the past often secretly use the most stimulating methods to prove that they have no problems in order to prove that they are okay, if you adopt similar methods, it will recall the unpleasant experiences in their minds.".
You should adopt indirect stimulation methods. Don't touch or indicate directly first. You can use sexy underwear and ear biting style speech to make him feel distracted. Indirect voice and color stimulation will be more attractive to him who has failed. You can also fully express your joy during sex, see your satisfied expression, and hear your joyful voice, which is the best treatment.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
