When a man truly matures, he must have experienced a decent failure, an unforgettable breakup, a difficult and painful choice, a thrilling adventure, without experiencing it, life is incomplete, without experiencing it, and his thoughts are not profound. Looking from a distance, consider divorce as a "wilderness survival training"!
1. Be grateful
She once swore to be with you for life and committed herself to you, what kind of love is this!
In addition, from a probability perspective, there are tens of thousands of marriage partners that a person can choose from, but it is difficult to meet the one who is truly suitable for you. The "she" who is more suitable for you must still be waiting for you somewhere. The departure of the previous one not only accumulates important experience for you, but also gives you an opportunity to choose again. In any sense, you should be grateful.
2. Liberate from promises
Divorce can definitely cause harm, but it can also be a turning point.
Although we may know in our analysis that the passive may suffer more harm, we also need to know in the adjustment after divorce that the biggest challenge is not to fall into the mud of who has suffered the deepest harm, but to perceive and face the harm and hope, treating divorce as a stage of growth.
At the beginning, we made promises to each other and allowed each other to become a part of our lives. Now that we divorce, we feel as if we have lost a part of ourselves. But the exact thing is: to lose this part and liberate oneself from the original promise, rather than being bound by it.
3. Active healing
It is generally believed that "time is the only thing that can wash away all emotional distress, except for tears. Passing on emotions over time, the longer time goes by, the more conflicts are discussed, as if they are constantly diluted tea." Although time is a good medicine, how can one spend the agony of healing during this time?
Emergency suggestion 1: Create happiness with the same content that brings you pain, and neutralize the pain. We need to start a new love journey as soon as possible, actively participate in social activities, pay attention to the beautiful people around us, and do our best to prepare for a grand love event at any time.
Emergency suggestion 2: The more difficult times are, the more you should not indulge in smoking, alcohol, hemp, or the internet. Otherwise, you will develop bad habits, downgrade yourself, and face greater failure.
Emergency suggestion three: To reshape oneself with a goal, establish a new work plan or life goal for oneself, and be sure to announce it in public.
For example, if you want to develop a new project within the year, climb the five famous mountains, win a popular qualification certificate, and so on, and make a public commitment, you will go all out. When a man is busy with his career, emotional issues will automatically fall to the second place. When you enjoy the infinite scenery at the peak of success, you will feel how childish it is to be infatuated with the stream at the foot of the mountain!
4. Receiving professional guidance
Divorce is a major event in life, and the impact and harm make the parties yearn for someone to understand their emotions.
Especially for male friends like Zhang Wei, although they appear incredibly strong and maintain a false face, their inner torment requires the help of professionals to clarify. And when there is a lack of friends around who can understand and listen, the professional guidance of a psychological counselor can provide strong support.