Post Date April, 15 2023
I also experienced emotional confusion. Unlike others, my husband and I do business from home and often argue because of busy business. He doesn't understand my hard work at all, and I really need someone to silently care and understand me.
That's how I met someone near us. My husband couldn't give me any care or comfort. He gave me everything, and gradually we talked about everything. However, recently, my husband often came out to play games and didn't accompany me at all. This made me even more remember his kindness to me. His wife was not by his side, and he was empty and lonely. He asked me out, but we were both kind and thought about our own family.
But I just can't get out of this kind of relationship. I want to maintain this state, but I'm afraid that one day my family will know. Sometimes, I think of it myself, but my mother-in-law doesn't even let it happen. The more I think about it, the more I come up with it, like a period of rebellion. Of course, it's not that my mother-in-law knows these secrets about me, but rather that I have given too much to her family and don't want to lose me. I am a well-known good daughter-in-law near our house, so I have been being kind-hearted lately. Don't know what to do?
reply:
1. Many times, we don't know the purpose and significance of working hard to make money and working hard, so we lose our direction in this busy and chasing. The purpose of doing business is of course to make money, and making money is to make life better. However, looking back at your current situation, the couple's involvement in business has led to constant complaints, conflicts, and even enemies. Isn't it not worth the loss? Is this business very uneconomical? No matter how good or bad the business is, it should not affect the relationship between husband and wife, otherwise the business will have no meaning.
2. Understand your current mood, but do not support your actions. It is undeniable that humans are emotional animals, but what is more important for humans is to learn to control their emotions, rather than indulging and squandering them. Another thing is to face the problem directly and not avoid it. There are conflicts and disputes between you and your husband, so you need to understand how to reflect and find solutions afterwards, rather than seeking comfort outside of compensating for psychological effects. When faced with sadness and sadness, people do need a brief adjustment. During this period, they must grasp their own sense of propriety and not do things that lose their bottom line and dignity. My husband doesn't understand and empathize with you. You need to speak out your grievances in an appropriate way, and don't hold it in your heart or just burst out in a controlled state. This can only have a destructive effect on the marriage.
3. You should know that no matter how good other men are, they are someone else's, and they do not belong to you. Even if they can meet your emotional needs and satisfy your momentary desires, this superficial 'spiritual connection' often has a certain illusion, which may not be the true feeling in your heart. For this reason, please do not immerse yourself too deeply, otherwise it is easy for you to get fired, cause trouble, lead to extramarital affairs, and even make the marriage irreversible.
4. Since you are hailed as a good Chinese daughter-in-law in your local area, you should know how to continue to maintain your rare good image and not easily change others' good impression of you. At this point, you should understand that your reputation may be transformed into a mistress and destroyed at any time. Therefore, in order to continue your reputation and save your marriage, it is necessary for you to muster the courage to persevere, adhere to the bottom line of your heart, adhere to the principles of life, learn the ways of marital management, enhance the wisdom of marriage management, elevate your own mind, understand the other party's difficulties, have more tolerance and understanding, less complaints and grievances, strengthen good communication, and find the nodes of conflicts. It is inevitable that, Through hard work, it is certain that we can turn conflict into friendship and bring couples back together.
