Post Date December, 03 2023
Xiaoda rearranges the mail folder of the social website every three minutes. With the passage of time, his expression of joy changes from original to slightly anxious. It turns out that Xiaoda is waiting for his love list to be announced.
As for Xiaoda, he does not reject the possibility of meeting his other half through online dating. Just through the introduction of a friend, Xiaoda and a girl named Alice began to know each other from online friends. After about 15 days of family talk between them, Xiaoda became more and more curious about Alice behind the screen, because they not only have the same topic, but also have a relaxed atmosphere of joking with each other, So he decided to type these words on the keyboard: If you are free this week, do you want to come out for dinner?
However, after a month, Alice seemed to be in a dreamland without any news, which made Xiaoda wonder whether she was rejected? But the interaction felt very good before Ming Ming. Was it just a misunderstanding?
In the era of advanced technology, online dating is no longer a difficult thing to talk about, but a medium for many people to find happiness; But how do you understand that person on the other side of the computer is interested in himself? Or does the other party really just want to make friends online? Perhaps we can distinguish reference by the active behavior of human beings when they love things.
When online dating is interested in you/you, there are usually three kinds of performance:
Read Fast Back
When people are interested in topics or objects, they will subconsciously show positive actions. Even if they want to play the ambiguous game of push and pull, it will not exceed too many days.
Pay attention to the post
The other party cares about your/your post very much. It is also possible that the other party will just post the post in the last second, and the other party will immediately like it in the next second. In fact, this is because the other party wants to understand the relationship between you/your life style through your/your dynamic.
Keep looking for new topics
Neither of us is willing to let the relationship become a period, so even the trivial things in life, the other side is eager to share with you/you through the Internet.
However, it is worth noting that many emotional fraudsters are likely to do the same, for example, the graffiti wall of the other party has very little interaction with people, and the number of friends is not large, which is likely to be his fake account or personal account; The second situation is that after only knowing each other for a week, I am anxious to ask you/you out. If you/you think it is inappropriate, the other party still insists or deceives (for example, it doesn't matter, just come out!) or asks for money. It is best to keep a friendly distance and reconsider the possibility of this relationship.
Of course, there is another situation that the other party does not cheat at all, but really wants to make friends politely, but we may think too much of ourselves, thinking that the other party also has a good impression on us. Like Xiaoda mentioned in the previous case, Alice only replies to the message once in four or five days, and the content is just a common answer. She doesn't want to continue to create a topic, but in the online dating space where she can't see the real person, Xiaoda has too many romantic fantasies, and she has too much expectation for Alice who has never really understood.
Therefore, in the love interaction that stresses respect and boundaries, especially in the face of more unknown space like online dating, we should not only protect ourselves and protect each other, but also respect others and respect ourselves. If the other party doesn't want to reply, or even hasn't replied for too long, then we should let him/her go, which is also equal to giving ourselves a new opportunity to make friends with others; After all, love and acquaintance need not only the fate of meeting, but also the need to cultivate feelings slowly, especially in the era of focusing on fast love, which may be particularly important, so don't forget: the closer you feel to love, the more you need to keep a rational heart, especially in the online dating world.
