How can a leftover man who has 33.66 million more men than women hold a beautiful woman back

The National Bureau of Statistics recently released the performance of the national economy in 2015. Data shows that at the end of 2015, the total population of Chinese Mainland was 1374.62 million, 6.8 million more than that at the end of the previous year. From the perspective of gender structure, the male population is 704.14 million, while the female population is 670.48 million. The male population is 33.66 million more than the female population. The 'leftover man crisis' is more severe than imagined. More monks, less meat. If men don't work hard, they may be single. So, how can we catch up with girls?

1、 What kind of first impression should I leave for MM

1. The most crucial thing is to let MM see your ambition.

The greatest charm of men lies in their successful careers. Young people cannot be considered "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you need to make MM feel that you are an ambitious person.

Other things can be nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you have confidence in the future, you are not satisfied with the current situation, and you have a long-term plan. In short, your future is not a dream.

2. To appear confident and responsible

Don't be like a child, girls are lazy and hope to find someone to rely on. You need to show your confidence and sense of responsibility. Having a wrong choice is always better than having no choice.

3. Don't be too serious, but don't be too casual either

Be serious where you should be, and make fun of when you should be joking.

Girls all like men who are a bit cynical, so don't appear to be particularly concerned about everything, that's too rigid.

4. Appear more mature

A calm and calm man has a fatal attraction to MM.

2、 How to further engage with MM (time: the stage of starting pursuit)

1. The most crucial thing at this stage is not to rush, don't make things so clear, so that others can see at a glance that you are chasing them.

Think about it, most people don't like you at a glance, but they don't hate you at a glance. They are all children of ordinary people. Unless you look like Lu Han, Li Yifeng or Takeshi Kaneshiro, goodwill needs to be realized with the increasing understanding, so the key is the opportunity for further development you want.

From the perspective of a girl, think for others: if you come here so directly to have a partner, the girl must have psychological pressure. If after a while of contact, I find out that I don't like you, wouldn't it be like playing tricks on you? So if you start in a position where you are determined to achieve something, you will basically be immediately suffocated back.

2. Start with a low attitude

Firstly, position the relationship as a "friend". Originally an "ordinary friend", you hope to become a "good friend". Those with good taste can also demand that the other party become a "confidant" or something. In short, never say "chasing you". Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then girls will have even less chance to "reject" you - how can you refuse you if you don't chase her?!

This can reduce the psychological pressure on girls and enable you to have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days of knowing each other. You should have full communication and understanding, as emotions do not arise out of thin air.

3. Don't be too impatient during communication

Be open and relaxed, don't keep pestering others all day. Whoever treats you like this will also make you tired. I have a good friend who told me that the key to chasing girls is the eight words - 'sudden cold and sudden heat, easy to get'.

If you keep pestering others all day, naturally you don't think you're good. If you stay cold for a day or two, the girl will remember the benefits of your presence.

Also, don't show the ambition of not marrying unless you do. It's not good to depreciate the price too much, and sometimes you can play some tricks.

4. To create opportunities appropriately

As mentioned earlier, don't make things immediately become 'you're chasing someone else', and you need to have the opportunity to get close to a girl. At this point, it depends on your creativity.

You can gather intelligence and find ways to turn waiting for a rabbit into an encounter; You can also pretend to be casual and find the most compelling reason to invite the other person to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technologically advanced place, and if it's really not feasible, you can seek advice from senior colleagues.

5. Avoid: It is impolite to give someone a gift casually

Some people are eager to pursue girls and like to often buy things as gifts, but they do not know that chasing girls is the most taboo.

As the saying goes, "No merit, no reward." By giving someone something like this, you are exerting pressure. They will feel that they owe you something, so they will find a way to repay it. If they cannot repay it, they will find a way not to socialize with you, so as not to always owe you kindness.

If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well invite a girl to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding expensive places to play together. The girl can naturally see that you have spent a lot of money, but the money is ultimately spent by two people together rather than being turned into something to bring home.

3、 What exactly is' girlfriend '?

1. 'Girlfriend' is a fact, not a promise

You start dating a girl, from an "ordinary friend" to a "good friend", and then to a "very, very good, talkative friend". On a sunny afternoon, you accidentally pull her hand; On the moon, you suddenly attacked and kissed her. At this point, she is already your girlfriend, and regardless of whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are his boyfriend psychologically.

I know the smartest one, and I never asked 'Are you willing to be my girlfriend' until I went to bed. Finally, the girl became anxious and said, 'Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend?'

So, don't rush to puncture the window paper, the more hazy the situation, the more advantageous it will be for you.

2. What is' confession '?

As mentioned earlier, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend before you can confess to others, which is natural. Many people don't understand this issue and always think that someone agrees to be their girlfriend first, and then what happens. I can only say that he is very, very "simple" and also very, very "foolish".

3. Is there a time when you have to express yourself as a last resort?

For example, when there is a third party, or when you have a relationship with a girl that is not mature but two people may be separated for a period of time, the confession is an immature confession with very high risks, similar to when playing Go, the situation is severe, and the lagging party is forced to release a "winning or losing hand". If you win, you win, and if you lose, you can only say "misfortune is innate".

4. Don't export the word 'love' easily

I often see 'bold confessions' appearing on forums, but to be honest, I really think this is a very immature expression. Love "is a sacred word, meaning pursuit, commitment, and even a manifestation of responsibility.

A man who casually says' love 'is irresponsible.

4、 Civilized love cannot be forced

1. Not every MM can catch their hands

A good girl will always be pursued by many people, it is impossible to fulfill everyone's wishes, and there will always be losers. For example, even if you diligently study and master the most advanced principle of chasing MM, you still cannot catch up with any of SNH48.

From a different perspective, even if a rural nanny who has not graduated from primary school is kind to you and earns 600 yuan per month to buy you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and is willing to "be a cow and a horse" for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she keeps crying and pestering every day, you will definitely feel annoyed.

So love requires a material foundation, at least a balance.

2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity

Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why does a big husband suffer from having no wife? Some MM's are indeed snobbish (a minority). If you are not convinced, you can use facts to prove that "she was blind at the time" and never mislead others.

Of course, regardless of whether you can catch up or not in the end, you must treat people with sincerity, who are not serious about their emotions, and do not know in what way they will become serious. In pursuit, let the girl see your sincerity towards her. Of course, sincerity is not expressed, it needs to be expressed. Even if you fail in the end, you have taken it seriously.