He wanted me to coexist with the third party. I negotiated with the third party and was surprised by her words

I am three years older than my husband, who is a college student from the countryside. We work in a company, and I am still his leader. At work, I was close to my subordinates. They kindly called me "Sister Li (my surname is Li)". At that time, my husband was very inconspicuous, thin and small, sitting in a corner of the office, introverted and silent, and few people noticed him. I am a warm-hearted person. I will call him when I have lunch with several colleagues. After two visits, we became familiar with him. After two years in the company, he became a lot more outgoing, and his popularity gradually improved.

At the company party, he actually confessed to me. I was flattered. I always treated him as my brother. Taking advantage of the strength of the wine, he went up to hold me in front of the company's people. This fried the pot. They made a fool of themselves below, making me blush and have nowhere to hide. The next day, he came to the company with flowers in his arms. At the beginning, I couldn't accept the love between brother and sister. He persuaded me with his words from his hometown, 'The third girl holds the golden brick'. He couldn't stand his fierce pursuit, so I agreed. He took me back to my hometown, met my parents and held a wedding.

After marriage, our feelings continued to heat up. After several years of hard work, we took root in this city and bought a house. With the family, children are below. My husband is obsessed with having a child. At the age of 35, I am a high-collar woman. I agree with him. I submitted my resignation report to the company, retired to the front line and prepared for pregnancy at home.

Within half a year, I was pregnant with a baby, and my husband was very happy. Maybe it's true that the man said, "I feel refreshed at happy events", and my husband was promoted again. It's really a double blessing. After the baby was born, I was thinking of weaning, so I continued to work. But my mother-in-law is not healthy enough to go far away. The child is not taken with me, so I have to be a housewife at home. When the child is older, I am looking for a job.

As the children grow up, the husband has less time at home. I once suspected that he was having an affair, but his caress to me every day when he came home has dispelled my thoughts. However, a text message and phone call broke the comfort of our marriage. I saw that the text message was full of thoughts for my husband. I wrote down the number directly after reading it and wrote it on a large piece of paper for my husband to explain.

He was silent at the beginning. After a good meeting, he told me that he was cheating. The other side is a childhood neighbor of his hometown, a divorced girl, homeless, who came to this city to join him. He was soft hearted, helped her rent a house, and visited her from time to time. As a result, the two people fell in love with each other and had a relationship. My husband said that she was helpless. Let me not argue with her, accept her, and treat her as my sister. I slapped him in the face and scolded him for being crazy. He slammed the door in anger.

I dialed the number of the third party to indicate my identity. I obviously felt her nervousness on the phone. We were at a coffee shop. I ordered a cup of coffee and she ordered a cup of boiled water. I came straight to the point to show my intention. If she is short of money, I can help her. I just hope that she will not destroy other people's families and become a third party despised by the world.

As soon as I finished speaking, she actually began to cry. She said that she was a woman with a poor life. Her parents died very early and she married the wrong person. Her sister-in-law rejected her and refused to let her enter the house. She was homeless. My husband helped her. She didn't want fame or money. She just wanted a man who could be trusted to accompany her, but didn't drive her away. She promised me everything. I was shocked, and looked at the woman in front of me again. How could she live so inferiority complex with her thin body and delicate face. I suddenly felt pity for her. At the end of the negotiation, I couldn't find a right or wrong.

I was in a trance, and her tears conquered me. I don't know what to do now? On the one hand, her husband is determined to help him, and on the other hand, she is crying with tears on her face. What should I do? I don't want my marriage to become fragmented due to the intervention of outsiders. Ask the teacher to help me. thank

Reply from the consultant:

Undoubtedly, the one who has suffered the most from the affair of extramarital affairs is the one who has been betrayed. Now that you have known the fact that her husband has cheated, let alone sit back and ignore it. He has crossed the bottom line of marriage and found a high-sounding reason to cover up his immorality of cheating, which is really hateful. You show sympathy for the words of a third party. However, when a person is soft, it is easy to be used.

You don't know the person of the third party. As you said, 'delicate face, thin body', even you look pitiful, how can you live so miserable. Perhaps what she said was the truth, and she was abandoned, but she could not destroy others' families. Your husband claims to let you live in peace. He just takes care of her as a friend. There has been a physical collision, and I'm just taking care of her.

The third person is his childhood partner. If they continue to associate like this, have you ever thought about the consequences? Although she doesn't want fame, when the time is ripe, she will pose a threat to you. If your husband really wants to help her, he should find a reliable man for him to marry, instead of eating from the bowl and looking at the pot, you can't tolerate him too much, otherwise you will be hurt. It's up to you to decide which is more important.