Post Date December, 02 2023
Some words cannot be spoken to the people around me, and I always suppress them when I hold back. I hope that speaking online can alleviate my discomfort. The troubles of my happy marriage.
I am 28 years old and my husband is 30 years old. We live in Shandong. He treats me very, very well and is good at housework. We live with my mother, and he treats her very, very well. However, we are still living together now, and we don't know if we can maintain our marriage... In short, we feel very happy now.
The house belongs to my mother. I am an undergraduate with a monthly income of over 4000, which can be considered in Shandong. He has never attended school and runs a small shop of his own. The money he earns every month is only enough for his own expenses and to buy some household goods and vegetables for his family. He left Heilongjiang to accompany me to Shandong because of me; I also gave up the opportunity to stay in Qingdao because of him, and now I am in a small city in Shandong
There are some very annoying things that I don't know if everyone has encountered:
1. Sex life: He can't basically satisfy me... I can't explain clearly. I feel like he's very powerful, but he can't make me impulsive, maybe I'm a bit cold? Anyway, sometimes his exertion can cause me pain and can't make me reach an orgasm. On the contrary, when I am alone, I can use my own hands and make myself impulsive without entering the body... This makes me very troubled. Sometimes I feel like being with him is like a performance, obviously not excited, but also taking care of his emotions and self-esteem. I am very worried and a bit afraid of being late.
2. "My family is very opposed to our being together because he has no money and no culture, but there's nothing I can do about it, so we have to go with him.". However, I found that there are too many relatives in their family, and they all feel that we have a very similar life. Today, my cousin, tomorrow's nephew, and my aunt come from Heilongjiang almost all year round, and they are unemployed, not tourists. "I came here to ask him to help me find food, but I didn't like to work seriously.". Taking into account his feelings, I cannot speak deeply, let alone express unhappiness, but I am really uncomfortable with those people, especially because they are very vulgar, often swear, and fight with others. Whenever I invite them to dinner or go out to play, I feel very uncomfortable.
3. When I first fell in love, I said I didn't want children, but now that I've been talking for more than five years, I'm starting to talk about marriage. His attitude has become ambiguous and he's always dealing with me. He also said that his brother has a daughter and his family wants a boy or something. I really don't want children
I won't give up on this relationship. But in the face of so many annoying things, I really don't know who to say good to, nor can I say it to my mother, because my mother opposes us, and knowing these things will definitely lead to us breaking up again. This is also the reason why it is difficult to leave the feelings opposed by my parents... I am very confused
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
