Post Date December, 03 2023
To achieve mutual understanding and intimacy between couples, it is necessary to understand their psychological needs in order to achieve harmony and happiness. Famous American psychologists have summarized the psychological needs of humans and concluded that harmony between spouses must meet the five psychological needs of both parties.
1、 The need for respect
A person's self-esteem has been around since childhood, and once it is damaged, it can be extremely painful. If respected, one will feel relieved and satisfied. Mutual respect and trust between spouses are the fundamental guarantees for deepening love and achieving career success. Any reprimanding or belittling of a loved one will damage their self-esteem.
2、 The need for autonomy and performance
Everyone hopes to act according to their own thoughts and will. This is the need for autonomy. Everyone hopes to express themselves in front of others, exert their talents as much as possible, use their wisdom to create considerable labor results, and satisfy their performance psychology. Couples should often use language or behavior to make each other happy, surprised, fascinated, and thus appreciate themselves.
3、 The need for communication
Society is the source of joy in human life. The practice of not allowing a lover to interact with others not only fails to ensure the specificity of love, but also undermines the other party's psychological balance, feeling tired of family life, and developing aversion towards the lover, which can only lead to the breakdown of the marriage.
4、 Hobbies and emotional needs
Everyone has different hobbies and should try to meet their psychological needs as much as possible and provide convenience for them. The emotional needs are centered around love, and lasting love will provide the other party with the greatest psychological satisfaction. Otherwise, a sense of loss will naturally arise, and dissatisfaction, worry, and resentment will also follow.
5、 The need to vent
When a lover is unhappy in their heart, they always want to find someone to confide in and express themselves. The object of this kind of venting is of course one's own lover, and both couples consider each other as the best object of venting. Therefore, neither party should blame the other party for being narrow-minded or resentful of their nagging. Instead, one should actively accept the other party's venting, and further comfort and guide them to relieve their inner pain, freeing them from internal conflicts, and establishing a new psychological balance. In this way, the inner pain will dissipate and the marital relationship will be further strengthened.
