Post Date December, 03 2023
When a man and a woman go from strangers to acquaintances, fall in love, and eventually become a couple, it originally requires a lot of courage and is full of inexplicable wonderful fate. How can couples achieve mutual affection, intimacy, and ultimately maintain decades of harmonious and fulfilling marital relationships? Famous American psychologist Henry. Murray has conducted a lot of scientific research on the psychological needs of humans, and finally summarized five psychological needs that couples must meet to maintain a happy and harmonious relationship:
1、 The need for respect
Everyone has their self-esteem from a very young age, but it is often extremely fragile, and once hurt, they will feel extremely painful. On the contrary, if people often feel respected or accepted, they will feel very relieved and satisfied. Therefore, only when couples often show mutual respect, understanding, and trust can their love and marital life be more fulfilled, and their sense of happiness be continuously improved. Any accusation, lesson, contempt or demeaning tone or behavior of the other party may damage their self-esteem, ultimately seriously affect the quality of the marriage, and even lead to tragedy.
2、 The need for autonomy and performance
Everyone hopes to act according to their own thoughts and will. This is a manifestation of the need for autonomy. Everyone hopes to fully express themselves in front of others, exert their talents to the best of their ability, display good demeanor, and hope to use their wisdom more fully to create more labor results, realize their self-worth, and gain more recognition from others. This is the manifestation of meeting internal psychological needs. Husband and wife also need to make each other get more joy, joy and amazement through their eyes, language or behavior, so as to get more feelings of appreciation and acceptance, and finally achieve self-acceptance.
3、 The need for communication
Participating in social activities and integrating into the real population is the driving force for maintaining vitality and fun in human life. The practice of not liking to interact with others and not being willing to approach the crowd is difficult to be recognized in modern society. In marital life, it is important to always pay attention to the external and internal needs of the other party. This not only deepens our understanding and enhances our understanding, but also allows us to further deepen our hearts and maintain more ways of spiritual communication and connection, making love more focused and stable. It can also keep family life lively and marriage life forever youthful.
4、 Hobbies and emotional needs
Both husband and wife come from different families, with different family conditions, educational backgrounds, regional cultures, and hobbies. At this time, it is necessary to understand as much as possible the psychological needs of the other party and purposefully adapt to and meet their psychological needs. As long as one pays their own sincerity and love in handling any trivial family affairs, both parties will perceive and obtain greater psychological satisfaction. Only in this way can marital relationships be free from resentment, disappointment, complaints, and even hatred. Therefore, the more stable a family, the more stable a marriage, and the abundance of love within the family as nourishment.
5、 The need to vent
Even the happiest couple cannot maintain a happy and joyful mood all day long. Like ordinary couples, they must also have sadness, pain, and conflicts, and may also experience emotional excitement and even arguments. But the greatest wisdom of these couples is that when one party's emotions become unstable, the other party will make timely assessments, make compromises and concessions, and even be willing to actively become the other party's listener, listen to their voices, and help the other party overcome the troubled period with stable and peaceful emotions. In a sense, the best psychologist may be your partner. When someone can actively open up their emotions and express their distress, this is the best opportunity to reflect and express love. At this moment, just doing some comfort and guidance to express love and warmth by the other person's side can maximally resolve their inner anxiety and quickly release them from pain. Only by allowing one's partner to always feel the existence of love, feel your unwavering support and unconditional companionship, can a marriage relationship be maintained more lasting and harmonious.
