Post Date December, 02 2023
Girl, the biggest problem is not that you're fat!
One day, I accidentally placed a photo from my twenties in my circle of friends and received 150 zans. Suddenly, it occurred to me that in my youngest and most beautiful years, I never felt beautiful. This is the most regrettable thing in my life.
"I didn't learn to accept myself until I was thirty five years old. It's really a loss, but what's even worse than me is for those who haven't accepted themselves in their entire lives, such as Xiao Feng. Our common characteristic is that we're never satisfied with how we are now.". As a once fat person, and of course not thin now, I would like to ask those shivering little Feng people in front of the world the simplest question: How fat are you (short, small, ugly... and the like), even if you are so fat that you are so desperate to die and live? So fat that you attribute all your current misfortunes to these flaws?
"Because of being fat, you can't find a good job, a good man, a good salary, or good luck... Have you ever thought that all the misfortunes are not because you are fat, but because you think you are fat, and that you have created a truly frustrated and starless self?"? Who would like someone who speaks and faces like that? Who would be willing to make friends with you?
Xiaofeng's favorite phrase is that every time she goes out, she sees "despicable looks" from others. In fact, I would like to ask her which eye you see "despicable", and that "despicable" is your own "despicable"! This kind of disdain becomes a psychological disease when it reaches the extreme. The so-called "body image disorder" refers to the unrestricted amplification of one's own physical defects and the rise to a total denial of one's own life. Perhaps the deepest psychological reason is that for this reason, you can avoid other problems in life, you coward
"There's really no weight loss in this world, only a life that's not willing to change. If you really think you're too fat, why don't you seriously lose weight?" This is the way many people with strong personalities ask questions, and I dare not ask that, because as a person who has been struggling to lose weight for years, I know how difficult it is to truly lose weight.
But if losing weight can make you look ten years younger, if losing weight can make you feel lighthearted when exercising, and if losing weight can make you more confident, why not? If we have shortcomings, we can only choose two ways to live: to make our shortcomings less disadvantages, and to make our advantages more like advantages. If you unfortunately have family genetics or drug obesity, which cannot be changed, then the way to make your shortcomings less flawed is to start losing weight.
Indeed, it is the shortest, most direct, and simplest path to self-confidence.
My friend Xiao Fei turned out to be a somewhat stocky sister-in-law. Later, she insisted on running ten kilometers every day. She turned herself into a beautiful woman one size smaller than before, and she also became happier and happier. This is the reality that I witnessed with my own eyes. Basically, if you start controlling your weight, it means you can start controlling your life. As a healthy human being, what makes you more confident than the feeling of holding yourself in your hand?
Maintaining a strong willpower over your own body is a great thing, indicating that your will is above your body, not your body. This is the highest level of being a higher animal. Teacher Chen Danqing tells us that in the highest sense, a person's appearance is his person. My understanding is that this appearance includes not only the face, but also the body. "Face, we can't be autonomous (of course, we can also be moderately autonomous now, after all, modern medicine is so sophisticated), but after people reach the age of 40, what qualitative difference can a beautiful person's face make from an ugly person's face? However, there is an absolute difference of magnitude between a fat, bloated body and a healthy, slim body, which, to put it bluntly, is almost the difference of ten years old.".
After the age of thirty, we should not only be responsible for our appearance, but also for our body. Because the differences between people first appear in the body, which reflects the quality of your life, your ideas, and your values. Your body always reaches others' eyes before your inner world and upbringing. If you want to understand a person, all you need to do is look at her figure, look at her face, look at her eyes, look at her arms, look at her fingers - with all due respect, many young people who claim to be unable to reduce their weight at a very young age (excluding disease factors) mostly have psychological shadows that are difficult to remember. There is a saying that fat is the self you don't want to face. The more fat, the more self you don't want to face. This is really sad.
"For forty years, I have also faced obesity for forty years. It has been until recent years that I have found a happy relationship with it, but I have decided on two other ways.". First of all, I accept that I am a fat person and that I am prone to obesity, just as I accept that I am not beautiful and that I may not have a perfect life. Yes, I accept. It's nothing. Imperfection is normal. Who is perfect?
Strangely, when you truly accept yourself, you become more powerful. At this time, you try to find a suitable path for you. Maybe you love walking fast, maybe you love aerobics, or you love fitness equipment, or you think dieting is more useful, or you prefer Murakami's long distance running... You do everything that can maintain your body balance and make you happier, including losing weight.
Well, girls, to be honest, accepting yourself feels good, but having the ability to improve yourself will make you feel better.
Come on!
