Post Date December, 03 2023
Do you have any suggestions for choosing a spouse? The most important first item in my answer is' fit is more important than love '.
I know that as soon as this sentence is spoken, there will be a barrage of bullets, and various female heroes will question, "Excuse me
Of course love is important. A person who burps and farts, has short heads and thighs, can still sit together and enjoy a simple meal. They have been eating delicious delicacies for years, all because of love.
But if it is oriented towards marriage, then it must be more important than love. Love is a 10cm red sole shoe, just put it on and let it shine. Suitable for air cushion running shoes, able to climb over rugged mountain roads. After all, your feet are your own, and you have to walk your own way.
Mr. Gu Long asked himself in 'Who Will Cheers Me': What is love?
Love to death, love to death, love to ecstasy, love to confusion, love to death without you, I want nothing but you.
No cars, no western-style houses, no reputation, no career, no friends, not even parents or brothers, not even life.
Can this be considered love? Of course it needs to be counted! If even such emotions are not considered love, what other emotions can be considered love?
But how long can this kind of love last?
Dare to answer this question for Mr. Gu Long: This kind of love can last until the beginning of marriage and restore one's nature.
The warmth of love gradually fades, and coupled with the lengthy marriage, we can no longer act and automatically relax our appearance.
I have a friend, the man is a Phoenix man, and the woman is a well-off woman in the city. When they first fell in love, well-off women valued Phoenix men's initiative and consideration. Phoenix men value the generosity and liveliness of well-off women.
Due to their love to the death, the two sides automatically blocked the vast difference between the three perspectives, the worried faces of their parents, and the thoughtful words of their friends.
Anyway, we have love.
After marriage, the Phoenix man became financially independent and never gave up a penny because his money was earned through years of hard work. We need to feed our families back and share in parenting.
Once I took my son out to play and he wanted to eat bread. However, the well-off woman didn't bring any money and took out 6 yuan from the Phoenix man's pocket to buy bread. The Phoenix man said, 'You're shameless, take my money.'.
Well-off women have a wide range of friends and hobbies, but in the eyes of Phoenix men, they make trouble out of nothing and love vanity. He secretly deleted all the phone numbers of his friends from the Xiaokang girl's phone book. He said, you should visit the elderly more and take care of the children.
The well-off woman cried to me. I said, don't you have love? You can buy bread with love and be friends with love.
If a phoenix man finds a phoenix woman and only enters but cannot leave together, he closes the door and counts money to have fun. The weekend activities are just a perfect match for Zhang's parents and Li's family.
If a moderately prosperous woman finds a moderately prosperous man, she can eat spicy food and make good friends together, which is made in heaven.
Not suitable for this kind of thing, both positive and negative are right, and together they are wrong.
Marriage is originally a meat grinder that kills love. Not suitable, adding insult to injury, love begets hate. Even the most basic level of boredom in marriage cannot be achieved. Let's talk about how to carry a child and live and die together.
If appropriate, even if we didn't fall in love before marriage, we can still have a love that nurtures and nurtures each other due to the perfect surprises in life.
I have seen such examples before. The orders of parents, the words of matchmakers. At first, the female protagonist burst into tears when she saw us, accusing the remnants of feudalism of harming her life.
I asked the man about his background, educational background, and work experience, but there was a sense of empathy in his heart.
Both of them are highly skilled children who have studied in Europe and have worked in media related fields. Their appearance and physique are evenly matched, and they are definitely potential stocks for a happy marriage.
Sure enough, the two of them started talking about their love after marriage while listening to the classical piano. They often discuss the past, present, and future directions of news and paper media, gripping their hands and sighing endlessly.
The routine gifts given to the other party's parents are all in common. They all want one child because they have one dog each, and the three legged tripod is warm enough.
Their marriage, like brothers and lovers, always has endless topics and endless aspirations. They went to their hometown to revisit Europe, leaving behind a message on both sides' university campuses: 'It's too late to meet'.
Being suitable will make your marriage feel comfortable.
Comfortable enough to compromise and still retain most of oneself, without having to pretend to act; Comfortable enough to face trivial boredom and real ugliness together, otherwise a lifelong marriage would be too difficult.
