Post Date December, 03 2023
Gender marriage: learning how to cope with the "itch" in marriage
"Men are not bad, women do not love." Different people have different understandings. The word "bad" has a bit of meaning, and often makes women seduce, that is, hate and love. What they hate is his "bad", and what they love is also his "bad". It is said that marriage has a seven-year itch. According to a survey conducted by the psychology major at Princeton University in the United States, the itch of marriage does not depend on the age of marriage, but occurs in the natural growth age of a person. ", For men: 30-35; 45--50; In the three age groups of 60 to 65, men are most likely to overflow the itch of marriage. Once such a man's feelings leak out, it's really choppy and messy; Women often can do it when it's time to do it, competing with men, but when it's time to let go, they always feel reluctant.
"Don't despise anyone, don't laugh at anyone, it's your turn to still not let go easily with him. In fact, it's okay to be unwilling or entangled. Since you have used this brain, it's better to play a game in which the odds are in your hands. If you let go easily, it only means that his position in your heart is too vague, so why bother with his flirtatiousness, and if you let go with a high attitude, it's just a hypocritical and aloof person talking about bystanders. Men hate women's entanglement,", On the other hand, if a woman turns out to be a red apricot, can a man calmly handle it and fulfill others with dignity and integrity? Self ridicule, I wish I could put that man into a deep abyss. Everyone is like this: It's easy to talk about others, but it's often my turn to turn the gun and self-protection is strong, but it's understandable.
"A blessing in disguise is not a blessing in disguise." The term "winning the lottery" here refers to a compromise strategy that applies to both men and women, neither indulging nor stifling. If one changes heart and mind through understanding, everyone will be happy and the world will be at peace. If one does not know the depth of the situation, one can only take the blame for oneself.
Rules of the game (1) Build a plank road openly, and go through the dark
Regardless of whether a man or a woman has a "tickle" in their heart when their "flower heart" is in full bloom, their dissociative appearance and seemingly meticulous heart will inevitably have the disadvantages of being uneven compared to the past. Take the "itch" of a man as an example: When a wife discovers that her husband is unusually "greasy" and behaving strangely, she even "whines" when she connects to the phone, not to mention those inferior reasons, such as overtime or social entertainment.
At this time, women need not panic, it is just a precursor to their "itching". "Bad" men have a slightly higher emotional quotient, and their intelligence quotient is often lower than others. Those petty tricks and tricks that are disdainful are considered impeccable, but in the eyes of their own women, they are riddled with holes. For example, the phone number of a lover is often an alternative name in the phone book of their mobile phone, and wives are very sensitive, and it is not difficult to detect small tricks; "His reasons for working overtime are even more convincing, and you feel that this is beyond common sense, and the flaws cannot be overcome."; In fact, this layer of window paper is pitifully thin. If you fight with it with real bullets, he will push the boat along with the current, make amends to his mistakes, and fall victim to his trap, but you will not end up well.
The most effective way to stay in this state is to stop deliberately and carelessly, leaving him room for manoeuvre, making him feel that you are no ordinary person. After a few moves, he naturally retreats with interest.
Rules of the game (2) Moderate relaxation
As the saying goes, "Going on a pole is not a trade.". "This sounds a bit vulgar, but in fact, couples often have this subtle feeling, whether male to female or female to male, that they are too proactive, too emotional, or too affectionate, and as a result, things go against their wishes. People's attitudes can sometimes be very strange, especially when a man or woman has an extramarital affair, and when they return home, the other party is neither cold nor hot towards them. In fact, it's not surprising to think carefully, because at this time, he or she is completely abnormal in their marital attitudes,", Can absent-mindedness be normal?
Women have suffered from the word "infatuation" throughout their entire lives. Once they fall in love with each other, they always sit and daydream, thus emptying their emotions unreservedly. Blind infatuation is begging. Men's physiological genes and psychological base both determine that their emotions are expressed in stages. Men's feelings are often fleeting based on their senses, while women's perceptions are often tenacious.
Since this is the case, why not treat men's "itching" with indifference? Love and emotions require skills, not completely selfless honesty and dedication. That way, a man will feel unchallenged and you can make no demands on him. Your non response is the most powerful weapon against him. At this time, even if he is "itching" in the sight of other women, when he finds that his woman really snubs him, He feels that his "bad" and "itch" have been trampled on to the point where they are worthless. At this point, in his opinion, you are more challenging than the woman he wants to "itch". He has a great deal of self obsession with "missing talent". Don't worry, he will naturally return to your original emotional relationship with him.
Rule of the game (3): Let him run a hundred meters, he's very capable
In such an open society, why do many men suffer from "marriage phobia"? One of the most important factors is the fear of losing freedom after marriage. Men are born with wild animals that are suitable for stocking but cannot be kept in captivity. Captive men have no vitality. The more they are kept in captivity, the more exciting the outside world becomes, the more "itchy" their hearts become, the more they feel that the women around them have no sense of novelty, and they always want to search for fresh prey outside the city.
In marriage, a woman does not have to worry excessively and appropriately give a man freedom, but it is not indulgence. If she wants to "itch", she will have her own discretion. If she wants to "itch", she will be a hundred meters away. If she has a psychological balance, she will inevitably measure the moral bottom line of life between husband and wife. A free-ranging man often has a love complex for home, and if a woman controls him, she will naturally be able to handle it with ease.
